Completely understood Zoe and I certainly respect your opinion, insight, and level-headedness.
Please understand, though, when it comes to policies regarding students as victims in school, policies are in place to protect the students. Once a student feels they are victimized by an adult in authority at school, or victimized at any place or any time by anybody, mechanisms are in place to protect that child.
These are not considered teaching or learning moments.
As a mandated reporter, myself, I'm obligated to go straight to either my adminstrative supervisor, or the proper authorities if I even suspect that a student has been victimized. I'm not even given the latitude to determine if the situation could even be considered abuse or victimization. If Gabby had come to me, or I even heard from her, that a guidance counselor had "discriminated" against her for any reason, I would be obligated to go to the principal and report it myself, period.
Now, when I first read the description of the incident, I didn't think it was really "discrimination" against a diabetic. Poor judgement, perhaps, certainly commenting on matters that you are not qualified to comment on, but neither of those are considered reportable offenses. But, reading the rsponses, I reealized that it doesn't really matter what I think. If Gabby thinks it's discrimination, I would be bound to report it.
Liek I said, that policy is in place to protect the child for any foreseable or unforesseable consequences. The first priority is to remove the child from the situation, period, not send them back in to try to rectify the situation themselves.
Please remember, in cases where children are victimzed by adults, or others, it's often the child who feels that they are in some way responsible, and might even be able to "fix it".
While it may be resonable to to expect that a child could, or would, respond appropriately based on their on judgement, it is not appropriate to encourage a child to do so in such cases,
Oh, and I would agree that parents are really the first place that kids should turn. Those are usually the last people kids want to talk to though, especially if they somehow feel responsible.