Doctors not supportive

My husband and I decided to try and get pregnant. My endo was not supportive. I am at 7.2 A1C. She wanted me down to 6.5 or lower. We decided to try anyway when my other doctors thought I was fine. We tried for 6 months to no avail. We get referred to a fertility doctor who got on his soap box and gave me all these horror stories of diabetics that miscarried or had problems. He recommended genetic testing and that I have to get permission from a high risk ob/gyn before he will treat me. I cried all weekend with fears that they would say no, or if I did get pregnant, it would be my fault if something went wrong.
There is nothing so dis empowering as being lectured to by a doctor. I feel like my body has betrayed me and that I don’t have any say about this experience. I’m 35 so I feel like I don’t have a lot of time, but I just want someone to listen and support me.
Anyone have a similar experience? I feel broken.

I really don't have advice to share, but just wanted to say how sorry I am for your situation. I have an appointment with a maternal fetal medicine specialist tomorrow and would be devastated to be treated the way you have been. Stay positive and best wishes to you and your husband.