This is Brandi’s mom. My name is Denise. I too had a miscarrage. I was married at 18 and wanted children right away but decided to wait a year to really settle into married life ( I now ofen reccomend this to other young couples). My husband had lost his mother suddenly and without warning 3 months before our wedding so we decided to live with his father to help with the transition. My sister in law got pregnant not long later. I was still longing for a child and she was not only pregnant but was carrying twins. By this time a year had passed and I was trying but to no avail. I tried for a solid year and nothing. I felt like I was less than a woman and it hurt so bad. I went to a fertility dr. and found out I didn’t need their help because I was pregnant. I was elated and relieved I was able to concieve. I lost my baby at 7+ weeks. I cried alot and I didn’t understand why it happened. I also had well meaning people saying things like " at least you know you can get pregnant" and " well you can always try again". People don’t understand how much this hurts. I didn’t lose my shoes I lost my baby! One friend sent flowers with a sympathy card. You have to acknowledge it was a baby and it was a loss. My advice is to name your baby if you feel comfortable with it. Its saying this was my child not a blob of tissue, it was my baby! My babys name is Monica. I know your angry and your angry at God. I can assure you He is the giver of life and not death. He hurts for you more than your hurting right now. He can also heal the hurt in your heart and He desperately wants to you just have to accept it. I can also tell you there’s NOTHING you could have done to prevent this. It’s not your fault. I will always be here if you ever want to talk. Just pm Brandi and I will send you my email. I will be praying for you and will do anything I can to help. I’ve been there and I know how you feel. I am a pastor and I am available to help anyone who needs it.
