It is a day before Christmas eve. I used to find joy in Christmas. This year has been tough. I’m a divorced dad of two. The oldest and I have a great relationship, as one can have with a 14 male teen. The youngest is a preteen. Did I mention that the preteen is my daughter. It seems like nothing I do is good enough. We have not spoken since early October. The Bible says we are supposed to keep running the race. Sometimes I feel like I just want to get off the track and watch the race from the bench. But I try not to be a quitter. There are days where I feel overwhelmed. Being a better parent, being a better steward of the resources that God has given me, being a better support to my ex-wife and being better Christian. Many thoughts sidetrack me. I was not a good husband, it appears that I am not a good parent and there are days I question if I am a good friend to my friends. I know that these are strange thoughts to have at 1136 pm, when I should be in bed.
Thought that putting up the tree and lights would make me happier. Not so much. Maybe playing more Christmas music make me happier. No even close. I like out my window and see all the balconies with cool looking lights creations on their patterns. I have got one string. Yes I feel like Charlie Brown. I know that there is much joy around me. Children laughing in the mall, playing road hockey with their friends and hanging out with people that care about them. Young families starting out on their mutual race. Mature couples who are making that turn for the finish line. It seems like the media saturates us with the message that we need to be in a relationship to be content and happy. Sometimes that can be true but for the most time this is a false tale. Granted I would love to be in a relationship, but there are areas in my life that I need to get squared away.
I am looking for this month, year and decade to say good bye to us. I need to sit down and make a list of what I value in this life. Where do I see myself in a month, year and 5 years from now. 2010 is the time to make a start that is fresh. I need to make a stand on what I want to in do and what kind of impact I would like to make on others that are in my life. I turn 44 in June. According to medical “experts” my life is half over. I feel that I have not contributed substantially to this place we call home. I can sit on the bench and watch people race by me or I can stand up join the race and make something of my time left.
Many people around the world will attend their congregations and will reflect on a cold night in a lowly stable in Bethlehem. They will hear a message about a teen that gave birth to a baby who in 33 years will have an impact on the world. It is my prayer that this message will resonate with me once again. I used to have joy in my life. I need to replace that sadness with joy that can heal.
It is my goal this season to improve in the areas mentioned. I hope to be an impact in my kids lives and my friends lifes.