Hey, I just joined “Parents of Type 1” to answer this question. It’s not just the lows that ghost. It’s the mistakes, too.
I am a Type 1 and, while in college, went on a five-week study abroad trip to Germany. While there, some of us went for a weekend jaunt to the Czech Republic and I left my Humalog bottle back in East Germany and my pump went empty just after we arrived in Prague. It was a huge fiasco that involved visiting many pharmacies, at least 4 hospitals, and getting hit up by a black marketeer (tempting, but no). I eventually found an American Medical Center with a doctor who wrote me an Rx for Regular and called a pharmacy to ask them to stay open until I could get there. It was a short-term horrific experience for me - but worse for my parents. This was the first weekend of my five weeks. I knew I was going to be fine for the rest of the trip, was so proud at my ingenuity for getting insulin and finding an American doctor in a foreign land, had plenty of supplies with me back at my apartment in Germany, and YES, knew I’d made a mistake. But all they could think about was how far away and helpless they felt.
I had never EVER shown that kind of forgetfulness or negligence. But not one family member has ever remembered that, in the end, it was a success for me - a mark that I could be in the absolute worst of circumstances and manage it. I was 21. For me, it was almost a rite of passage. For my then endo and my family, it was something that had to come up again and again. I thought I had packed it. Just as you think you have your car keys, your wallet, and maybe they’re in your other pants. Even if it had been gross negligence, at some point, is absolution ever possible?
I believe that gentle guidance “hey, grab some snacks for lows before we leave” rather than “remember that time you didn’t…” goes much further in nurturing people who already deal with so much. The ghosts are one of the major MAJOR factors in diabetic rebellion.