Apologies if this isn’t the right forum for this, but I’d love some advice.
I’ve typically been very secretive about having diabetes and would hide it from people I’m dating for as long as I could get away with it. I totally get the benefits of sharing it early on, etc. but it just wasn’t something I felt comfortable with.
Once I got a dexcom, I’d usually rip it off if I felt like I was going to be in a situation where someone was going to see it. (Which wasn’t a big deal with the G5, but the G6 transmitters are 10 days so it’s worse to do it with them)
Finally, I became comfortable enough to wear it around someone I was seeing. They asked about it, I answered, and it wasn’t a big deal at all. Then the next time they saw me wearing it, they felt honored that I felt comfortable enough to wear it around them (I told them how I use to be self-conscious.) It gave me bravery for the next time.
Anyways, tonight I mentioned it to someone new I was dating. It was in context of another conversation, not at a mealtime and not a general blurt of “I have diabetes”. The reply? “Oh, that’s SERIOUS” I replied with, yeah, well, it’s not that bad since I felt like they thought I was going to die… Again, the reply “It’s serious”. I said it’s a pain, but it is what it is. Then they mentioned “well, as long as you take your medicine.”
I know everyone has different replies, but this one felt weird to me and I wasn’t sure how to handle it. It played on all my worst fears that diabetes made me less desirable and lovable since I was flawed. It could have been my imagination, but I felt like they cooled off a little after I told them. It might have been in my head.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Any tricks for telling someone new, especially if you aren’t super obvious about having diabetes in general?
I’m looking at getting a pump, which I know isn’t something I can hide the way I did by ripping off the dexcom, so I need to get better at this.
And any tips for dealing with a situation like I explained above? Or not feeling bummed by the reply?