More misinformation by the general public

Not all women pregnant with diabetes have gestational diabetes. Nathan was spreading the good news and just let a very nice lady know that it’s been difficult with my blood sugars and the diabetes. She told me not to worry that I’ll just have big baby and it will all go away after nine months. She seemed so confused when I told her I had this before getting prego and I only wish it would go away in nine months. What have you all found that works in situations like this. I didn’t have a line prepared lol.

Hi Kelly,
I said the same thing as you to others sometimes - that I wished that it'd be going away after the baby arrived!!! I'm afraid that I got a a bit sick of trying to educate the masses about preexisting diabetes and pregnancy so just tended to 'fake smile' my way through... and gosh darn it, the diabetes didn't go away when she arrived! :p All the best :)

I've had a couple of people ask about my diabetes while pregnant, too. I tell them that I've always had diabetes (well before I was pregnant). It's only "gestational" because I'm pregnant, but it will still be there when I'm not pregnant anymore! I wish we could educate the public more about diabetes. It's so irritating to have people think you only have diabetes because you're pregnant. Or even worse, when you aren't pregnant and they ask if you used to be fat and that's how you got it!

Most people have heard of "juvenile diabetes" so usually I would just say simply, "I have type 1 diabetes, which used to be called juvenile diabetes. It's an autoimmune disease and I've had it since I was 14." That always did the trick for me.

I really hate when people assume that because we have diabetes that automatically we'll have gigantic babies! To me that is the most frustrating misconception I've experienced. I pray that when my baby is born (this week) that it comes out completely average in size or even on the smaller side, just so that I can say HA to all those people out there who think they know everything about diabetes and pregnancy, when they clearly know nothing!

My OB told me that it's actually that babies born to moms with pre-existing diabetes tend to put on extra chub in the shoulder area and not the belly like babies of those without diabetes and that is the reason why c-sections are ocassionally more frequent because baby has a harder time getting out.

I've told people this, but somehow they still think they know better and continue to spread the incorrect info that diabetes of any type (well managed or not) equals giant baby....Ugh so frustrating.

I really hope your baby is nice and average, too!! I used to think that diabetes=automatic big baby was a misconception, but I'm starting to think maybe it's not... my A1c was in the 5s my whole pregnancy, and my daughter was 9 lb 13 oz, born at 37 weeks.

But like I said, I hope your baby is average weight and nice and healthy. Congratulations!

I plan on stopping by the perinatalogist's office after my postpartum visit with my OB (they are in the same building). At 37 weeks and 4 days they estimated my daughter to be about 7 lbs 1 oz. According to the doctor "a typical diabetic growth pattern." Which I thought was odd because she was 66th percentile not that big. My A1c ranged from 5.8 to 5.3 during pregnancy. My daughter was born at 6 lbs 11 oz 19 inches long at 38 weeks 3 days. Definitely not a big baby. You would think the specialist would know better. . .

I'd be intrigued to know how that's a "typical diabetic growth pattern" - to my uneducated eye that would seem 'normal' and a sign of excellent bg control - please share once they've enlightened you :)

On that note...our first daughter was born at 34 weeks and weighed 6lb 3oz. So yes, we got the 'big diabetic baby' thing. The only issue with that presumption is that she's a month shy of 3 and is still running at the 97th percentile for height - a little late for the diabetes rationale.

Not sure. At the 24 week ultrasound she was 45th percentile and never got over 66th. If you are between 25th and 75th you are statistically AVERAGE. I always found it funny that the ultrasound tech would give a weight estimate and when the doctor came in it was always a few ounces higher. I found it frustrating.

I worked my tail off for good control and when he first met me I think he judged me and my diabetes control based on my weight. I am significantly overweight.

He gave me a lecture and a half about not doing a preconception visit. I did one with my endo because his nurses made me cry on the phone after I miscarried in April 2011. Blamed my diabetes (after hearing my weight, not my A1c) my endo reviewed my numbers and assured me it was not my diabetes I miscarried between 5-6 weeks and it was just not a viable pregnancy.

But he is one of the best in the area, so I just put up with it. Dispite comments the actual care I received was top of the line. That and my OB is not a huge fan of perinatalogists so i just ran everything by him and he told me if he thought the Peri was over-reacting. LOL!

sorry for the double post

I know some babies are just big or small regardless of diabetes.

Me too. Mine was 9lb 4 oz and my A1c was 5.8% at delivery. Was below 6.5% the whole pregnancy with no fluxuations. I'm halfway through pregnancy again and my numbers have been so fantastic, so we'll see if we have another big baby. I don't care about the stereotypes anymore. If my kids are healthy, damn anyone who says anything about it. It doesn't bother me anymore. :)

That's awesome! I was heartbroken for you when you miscarried last year. So happy to hear you've delivered a healthy baby! Congratulations!

Agreed!

Thanks marps. And Congrats on #2. Hoping it is an easy uneventful pregnancy. I recall things got a little rough towards the end last time.

What you told her sounds perfectly adequate and hopefully she's less confused now.

Good luck with the blood sugars; it will be hard work but so worth it in the end.

And being diabetic doesn't mean you're going to have a big baby. I myself busted the diabetes 'stereotype' by popping out a 4lb 11oz baby with nothing much more than paracetamol, gas and air...

That's awesome. I don't know if this is at all true, but my OB told me that some fetuses/placentas are better "glucose filters" than others--that is, even if your bgs are pretty good, the fetus will get all of it. Other placentas don't filter in as much glucose from the blood, so the baby won't gain as much weight, even with the same bgs.

She may have just been telling me this so I'd feel better, who knows. But like I said, I was in the 5s the whole time and had an almost 10 pounder at 37 weeks! And she was definitely very chubby, not just large.

She also told me that they think there is something about diabetes that is not well understood that makes babies larger, even with excellent control.

I didn't even have the paracetamol, gas or air. But my son was induced at 37 weeks and was 5 pounds 1/2 ounce. The really funny thing was in the nursery he was right next to an 11 pound infant who made my son look terribly premature. I wasn't in the 5's throughout my pregnancy but got some decent control at the end when I guess it really counted. But throughout the pregnancy there was that "big baby" issue hanging over my head. They did an amniocentesis to access lung development at 37 weeks (which I think might have caused the water to break) and he was tiny.

I just simply told people that I was always a Diabetic and I am always going to be one even after I have my baby. You are right though people didn't seem to get that, it was like I was speaking a foriegn language or something.