Retirement and Living With Diabetes

I was employed as a teacher at the college level for 34 years (1964-1997). I had complications with my diabetes, and had to retire several years earlier than I had planned. Two years after retirement my health problem was resolved, but my former position was filled, and I was no longer needed at the college as a full-time teacher. After retirement I taught part-time for several years, and did a lot of carpentry work and painting on my home. My strength was gradually declining, and I had too little energy for strenuous activities. I felt like a fish out of water, and was very bored much of the time. Retirement did not seem to be as great as I thought it would be.

As a teacher I did not earn a lot of money, but the fringe benefits were very good. My wife and I financed our two sons while they were in college, until they had MS degrees. We were heavily in debt by the time they graduated. Gradually we paid off our debts, and our financial situation was stable. There was too little money for traveling like I had always wanted to do. My wife did not want to travel, she was perfectly happy staying at home, and taking one trip each year to see our sons and our two grand children. I wanted to do so much more, but we could not afford it.

In 2006 I discovered a diabetes support group online at Dlife.com. The support group there was a new found hobby for me. I soon joined other diabetes websites, and made many friends. Sharing my diabetes experiences with others was very rewarding. I helped my new friends, and they helped me. I was the only long term type 1 diabetic in most of the support groups, with more than 60 years of diabetes. My friends encouraged me to write a book about my life with type 1. That book was published in March, 2010. I was pleased with the hours I spent each day with my friends. I joined Facebook in late 2010, and found many more diabetes support groups. The parents of diabetic children were encouraged to find a long term type 1 diabetic who had good diabetes health. In July, 2013, I attended the Friends For Life Conference in Orlando, FL. It was a wonderful experience. So many great discussions, pictures taken with friends, and great food! My wife wants to go with me to the FFL in 2015.

More recently, health problems began to emerge. My wife needed a knee replacement in 2009, and now (2013) I need both of my knees replaced. My wife and I have arthritis, which slows us down, and makes many activities difficult. We don't know how much longer we can make those flights to Atlanta to visit our children. Our sons are very busy with their jobs, and they find it difficult to visit us each year. We live in New York, so we are are not physically able to pack up all our belongings and move south to Atlanta.

Without the online activity and communicating with my friends, life would have become incredibly boring. With my good health, working out at the gym, taking long walks, and my online activities, I am very content. My wife is very happy tending her flower gardens, spending time with her hobbies, and communicating with the neighbors. We have been married 49 years, and we will celebrate our golden anniversary on May 31, 2014. Retirement is good, for both of us!!

I wish I could join you in retirement! Certain aspects of my job are very interesting but not as much fun as hanging around. That damn money...

Richard, I am glad you and your wife are enjoying your retirement. Keep making time to smell the flowers.
Maureen

Rock. I understand your feelings, but hang in there and build up your savings. I had to retire early and did not have as much savings as I wanted.

Pastel painter, I love to stop and "smell the roses", but sometimes I have hay fever. lol

I decided to retire in June 2012--at 60. I just wanted to be sure I had some healthy years to do things I want to do.

And yes, it is wonderful. I volunteer at a museum, the library and our local farmer's market. I read a lot. I have lunch with my friends. I take classes. I travel. I have not once regretted my decision to retire.

Best thing? I do not have to go to Home Depot, Target, the grocery store, etc. with everyone else on the weekend!

Now, if I could just convince my husband to retire.....

Well Spock, this old husband retired when he was 57, and I wanted to wait until I was 62. I am not sorry now that I retired early. There have been many projects that I was able to do on my house.

Richard,
I purchased your e-book on my kindle and very much enjoyed it. Thank you for taking the time to write about your experiences.
Cheryl

i'm pleased to hear you enjoyed the book, Cheryl. Thanks!

I understand--updating the kitchen, now creating two guest rooms for son/wife and grandbabies.
I keep busy!

Best wishes always, Richard

I'm glad to hear that you and Anita are enjoying your retirement Richard. That's the way it is supposed to be. :) Most look forward to it. Keeping busy with things that you enjoy doing is certainly a key ingredient along with being relatively healthy.

Wonderful that you were able to go to the FFL Conference. It sounds like a lot of fun and "needless learning". :D J/K Learning is always needed.

You've done Well with your life and with your Family Richard. I hope that you are proud of your accomplishments.

49 years of marriage is such a dwindling occurrence...congratulations! It is also so awesome that you are embracing technology and social media. My Mom, at 64, does the same with her love for her veggie garden and was so ecstatic when she receive her first iPhone and communicate too online. I wish you and your wife the best and many many more years of wonderful retirement.

Terrie, it is so nice to hear from you! yes, the FFL was loads of fun, and learning. Please think about going there sometime, the FFL is in July every year. You would have lots of fun too!

Teena, thanks so much for your good wishes!

I've been away here and there and doing the normal summer stuff. Good to see you too Richard. I changed my email address. I'll pm it to you.

It did cross my mind about going but that's about a days drive from here(oh blah) and I don't enjoy long trips much anymore. If I could snap my fingers(seriously), I'd be there.

You'll be happy to know that I am participatng in the Canadian Diabetes Longevity Study(Thanks to Nel :) ). There are about 80 Canadian participants already. Yay! :)

http://diabeteslongevity.ca/

Richard, you are such an inspiration to me., I retired at 56, have gone back to work a bit ( less than 10 hours a week), as a speech pathologist for kiddies with disabilities. I am so grateful that you are helping so many with your testimonies and participation in so many diabetes based organizations.

And although I, too, do not have as much money for travel as I had wanted, I am enjoying every moment of semi-retirement. I still like to drive, despite the high gas prices, and sometimes a short weekend road trip, with friends or alone, is enough to feed my wanderlust...

God Bless,
Brunetta

PS. I love Atlanta too.

Hi Brunetta! I am glad you can enjoy your semi-retirement, and get to take those short trips. They can help a lot. After I get my knees replaced we want to travel more than we have been.

Terrie, there is a type 1 meeting every year in Canada. One year it was in Montreal, and another year it was in Toronto. You can make those meetings easily. I think it is similar to the Florida meetings, I’m not sure.

The longevity study sounds very interesting! I am assuming you are referring to diabetes longevity, you are certainly not old enough to qualify for a longevity study for non diabetics. HA HA!! The longevity study at the Joslin Diabetes Center in Boston is very interesting, with 850+ participants. Some very beneficial things have been found. You can Google “Joslin Medalist Study” and read about it. If you had a Joslin 50 year medal you would qualify to attend the Boston meetings that occur in odd numbered years. Talking to fellow long term diabetics, and sharing stories, is wonderful. The update on the study is always presented then too. A lady from England attended the meeting in 2011. Th Joslin medals are presented to type 1 diabetics all over the world.

Great post, Richard, thanks for sharing your great retirement. For me, it's been a process. I retired 6 years ago at age 58, moved to Guatemala, moved back to Berkeley then moved again to the mountains of Northern California. Aside from not knowing where I wanted to live, I realized I didn't know "who I wanted to be when I grew up". I always thought I'd be happy just to lie in my hammock and read books but that turned out to be incredibly boring and incredibly isolating.

I was diagnosed a month before I retired and once I figured out I was Type 1 I was grateful that I had all the time I needed to manage my D. But if managing D is all you do, it becomes who you are, and that definitely doesn't qualify as a life! So I've been figuring it out as I go. I still teach (Community College) part time so that is one thing I do and the rest I wing - I've never been much of a joiner.

I'm currently in Antigua, Guatemala, my first time back since I left 4 years ago. I too have always loved to travel and would do it more except for that darn thing...money. But I find traveling with D takes a bit of planning...not to mention packing. I'm currently staying at a friend's house with just a couple days planned in a hotel in the beach. I find that works best as I can cook for myself rather than rely on restaurants.

Anyway, for me retirement is something I always have to work on to find that balance between the solitary I enjoy and not going too far with isolation. But I have incredible respect for those who are working with D (and have spouses, families, schooling, etc!)

Thanks for you reply, Zoe. It is good to hear from you! I am not a joiner either, in my community, but I am very much a joiner with fellow diabetics online, and on Facebook. I have not traveled to other countries like you have, except for Canada. Visiting Guatemala sounds great, but I guess that we will stick to the US and Canada with our travels.

Ditto on being more of a joiner online than in RL!