Hey girl, hang in there, his day will come. I firmly believe that old saying "what goes 'round, comes 'round" is valid!
I saw your first note but can't find it now so I'll work from memory -- a REALLY RISKY foundation upon which to build. "40 plus years ..." you say, puts you in the same ballpark I play in. When I was a kid, back in the 40s and 50s, Mom made our meals and we ate what was placed in front of us. If you didn't like it, you went hungry. I don't think I every went hungry, not because I liked everything but because it was easier to eat what was in front of me. Looking back, I don't think that was an unreasonable posture for my folks to take, and I'd suggest you adopt it -- TODAY!
After my Dad retired, they sold the house we 5 kids had grown-up in and moved to a resort community on the Oregon coast. The first year or so was devoted to expanding the "weekend cabin" they'd bought so it could be lived in year-round. It was quite common for friends to drop in, and being "the cook", Mom dealt with feeding the additional mouths.
At some point, as Mom tells it, friends stopped by and after a bit of chit-chat, Dad asked "What's for dinner?". Mom replied "Well, it depends on where we go". From that point on, they ate out quite often, and virtually always when un-expected company arrived.
Good Luck, 'cause what goes 'round comes 'round!