Lol, I agree entirely. I’m going to share one of the more ridiculous ways I deal with my own dark feelings, that many people think is insane (but works for me). I listen to music on a regular basis, partly because music produces such strong emotions for me. I have never been one of those folks that can listen to music “in the background.”
So, when I’m feeling dark, sad, or let’s face it, depressed, I don’t listen to happy music. Ever. I listen to the darkest and saddest music I can possibly find. For me, that is often certain “classical” (although actually Romantic, in my case) compositions (largely Beethoven and Chopin), really depressing “anti-folk,” and a horrible genre called “doom metal.”
Why? Because listening to really sad and dark music lets me somehow feel all those feelings very intensely, and then put them aside so I can concentrate on being a good Dad, a good husband, and a good employee. I get to indulge that “depression” and burnout a bit, and somehow I can let it all out in the music and then move on to acting as if I’m actually OK. And somewhere in there, I actually get OK. But I don’t get there by pretending to be happy or only listening to Bobby McFerrin or John Philip Sousa marches.
People have to figure out there own way to be “OK,” with whatever is going on in life. For me, I listen to dark and sad (and occasionally angry) music, and it works to reprogram my brain so I can focus on the important things. But it’s never been important to me to pretend that I’m happy when I’m not. Being unhappy doesn’t have to be a burden on myself or others.