She is 15 and fairly recently diagnosed? She has the typical teenage angst with a T1 multiplier. So aside from becoming a young adult, she has to face the fact that she has to develop a “new normal” I was lucky, I was 30 years old when Dx’d with T1, but I had been raised in a family of professional ballet dancers - Monday weigh-ins, general avoidance of just about all food, overly developed self-discipline glads - I had no problem adapting to the new normal that is T1. Your daughter, well she got to be a “regular” kid - eating and doing the things her friends do.
Yeah, you and your wife need to get a semblance of the same page. That’s where your daughter’s Endo can help.And if the Endo has a lot of teenage patients, he/she is well versed in this. But maybe your daughter would benefit from meeting other T1 teens. She ,may very well learn that yeah, she can be cool and still manage her D well. And although middle age is a long ways off, she might learn that doing her D well will result in her looking (yeah, I am shallow - but hey, whatever works ya know) and feeling a helluva lot better than her contemporaries when she is older. As an example, I got together with college girlfriends a few years back (we graduated decades ago) and I was the only one who didn’t have to wear elastic waist bands, and looked great in my skinny jeans. (Even my Endo says that if being fashionable works as a motivator - go with it). Realizing that she isn 't the only kid with T1 is majopr. And google celebrities with T1 She’ll learn that famous actors, musicians, athletes, have T1 and are still gorgeous, successful winners. And check out D camps. Attendees aren’t treated like frail sick kids, but do learn that T1 is indeed do-able and something that they can be proud to manage.
Speaking of the Endo, you mentioned that the written logs weren’t being completed (I had done patient -I am not an Endo,I work with T1’s) whose handwritten log was obviously done the day before - same pen ink and they got carried away and filled in numbers for two weeks into the future!. Anyway, the meter,pump etc can be downloaded at the Endo office.
And all of you should read “Think Like a Pancreas” by FGary Scheiner. A CDE extraordinaire with T1 himself.The title of the book Think…Pancreas sums up the new normal. Cuz that is what she is taking on, thinking like a pancreas. Reacting to what she does and what she eats.