I’m sorry for the pain your son is going through. My daughter was diagnosed at 15 months and is now 5 years old, on the pump since 18 months old. I think kids get burnt-out at times, and what used to be ok, suddenly isn’t. My DD never complained about BG checks, but has gone through periods when she seemed very burnt out, resisted them, etc. At that point, the Endo said we could do a few less BG checks to give her a bit of a break. I’ve seen this as well with her site changes…sometimes she yields easily, sometimes she fights it. I remember the days of having to hold her down, and it will get easier with age. I used to let her lay in front of the TV and watch a favorite cartoon to distract her. I’ve also used stickers for when she’s done to encourage her. I would use his favorite band-aids, stickers, a sticker chart or a favorite TV show.
I also let my daughter choose a location for the site to give her a sense of some power (of course making sure it’s not too close to an old site) You might want to consider getting a stuffed animal that also has diabetes and letting him change the pretend pump site after his is done. I use Pumpernickle the Pump Monkey, and he has become a part of the family. You can find it on 50/50 pharmacy. He has his own personality and voice (voiced by me) and for my DD it has really helped her cope with diabetes. When she has a low, Pumpernickle also has a Low and prefers to drink banana juice (SMILE). When she has to check her BG, Pumpernickle also has to check his BG, change his site, etc. I also use books for kids on other kids having diabetes to help her cope better emotionally.
Hope this helps! Jessica