I can so relate to this, Beezy. I also suffer from BID, and I did find some help with a 12-step program. I had a hard time, however, finding a sponsor who was willing to talk food plans with me since everyone seems to be afraid of giving food advice to a diabetic. At the time, I really needed advice on meal planning.
Since then, I’ve remained mostly sober, but I do have occasional lapses. What puts me back on track is watching my bs’s and A1c go up, or getting on the scale and seeing that I’m starting to gain all the weight I lost.
Having diabetes AND Binge Eating Disorder definitely makes life even more difficult, but not impossible. I think the messages we get about being “perfect” make BID symptoms worse, so the other thing I do when I have a relapse (and most of them have been mini-relapses for the past few years) is remind myself that I don’t have to be perfect, just good enough. I think all the years of dieting for one reason or another just led to the “deprivation” way of thinking, which, for me at least, led to the binge eating. I’m on a pump now, which means I can have a treat now and then and not lose control of my bg’s, so I’m much more likely to delay the treat than just dive into an entire 4-hour (or 4-day, or 4-week) binge. Knowing I can have something makes it a lot easier to put it off, and that helps me get back on track even when having a treat leads to a mini-binge, if that makes sense.
Hope this helps.