Accept what ?!

I’m wearing mine and my son’s bracelets today. Sometimes, I need the double dose!

It always gives me a kick when my son or husband wear theirs, because they don’t live with diabetes but my diabetes takes its toll on them, too.

Steve,
I was diagnosed at 2years old and I dont think you ever find peace with diabetes because its something thats always going to be there with us so nothing more we can do.
There is nothing wrong with being angry about it and having millions of questions because we are all humans.
I think a lot more work should go into the emotional aspect of diabetes because itsall about medication,blood tests and a1c.
I am feeling very down about it at the moment 2 but I wont let it get me down.

I was diagnosed at 47.

You don’t have to accept it, but you do have to deal with it.

Fight back so you can watch your son grow up.

When I have to count carbs and portions or resist some tasty treat I look at is as starving the beast.
When I take a finger stick, I look at it as bleeding the beast.
When I take my insulin, I look at it as sedating the beast.

Now go for a run, hit the bag or scream into your pillow. Then take your son to the park.

Terry

I was diagnosed Type 1 at 53. Sucks at any age to have our world turned upside down & one day to have everything changed. Angry–who wouldn’t be? I was & have days when I want to stand on the roof screaming my head off.

Robert,

Hope you don’t turn here for understanding & a safe place to express your feelings to be greeted with the same insensitivity you’ve shown Steve. Since you “frankly don’t care,” then don’t respond. Quite frankly, I think your attitude is disrespectful.

Hey Steve.

While I don’t know exactly how it has affected you, I may have an idea. I was dx’ed when I was 11. It took me until now, almost 13 years later, to accept the fact that this is my life and I need to take care of myself if I want to see my future. I was a rebellious teenager, not testing, not eating right. I was pissed, to say the least, that I had to be responsible for my own health and it got to the point where I resented my parents for creating me with all these flaws (even though mine was caused by envirnmental factors) I was hospitalized in DKA quite a few times. Do you know how expensive being in DKA is? Lets just say Im still making payments to my parents and I will be for a few more years. As for the effect I did on my body during that time, only time will tell. I realized that I could only stay non-compliant and angry for so long before my anger completely consumed me and made me depressed, so I tried changing my attitude, slightly at first. Was I going to take control over this or let this control me? Do I really want to feel like absolute crap every single day of my life?
Accepting this is the hardest thing I’ve had to do in my entire life and it took me years to do it. Start checking out support groups in your area, Im sure you will find people in the same boat as you… tired, angry, etc. Knowing you are not alone is half the battle, the other half is accountability and finding something to inspire you to be the best that you can be. For me, thats my boyfriend and our planned future child once I get complete control- almost there, but its a struggle. You have the cutest little boy and he is going to need a good, strong father figure in his life. If you don’t come to terms and take proper care of yourself, how will you be able to teach him sports, or take him to concerts, etc. if you have multiple complications… like kidney issues, or even worse, going blind? You may struggle now but there is help out there, like a good endo and a nutritionist who can help you focus on proper eating. Just think, by picking up good eating habits (as well as other healthy habits) not only are you taking care of yourself but providing a healthy role model for your son. I’m here if you need someone to talk to- just send a message :slight_smile:

Sarah just said it all for me! One more thing: I took Type1 in 73 and have been fighteing this for so long but stayed in there for the fight! Find something or someone close to you and just sit your mind you want to be there for them! It works!

yes, that is a great reason…thanks

i do plenty about it, but i’m going to be angry. I’m angry at the fact that i can’t control it, change it, and sometimes manage it. This is the most difficult thing I"ve ever had to do and the consequences are more suffering at best.

you don’t know the beginning of it. you think I’M disrespectful? You’re the only one in ALL the replies to my discussion who was rude about it. EVERY SINGLE OTHER PERSON HAD SOME SORT OF UNDERSTANDING OR EXPRESSED HOW THEY RELATE TO ME.

I’ll say it again too. You said you “frankly don’t care”. If that’s the case, don’t respond.

Peace

Steve,

My comment about being disrespectful was directed to Robert:) I was objecting to his attitude & insensitivity to you.

oh yes, i see that…i was lashing again…thanks

How is angry going to serve you but to eat away at your soul? Do as you please but I am sure you can focus all that energy else where.

everytime in the past i have tried to explain different aspects of the things that have me at wits end, it gets misinterpreted as complaining, when I’m just describing it how it is. i can’t deal with that either. so i tend to bottle it up because i only get angrier when i get unsolicited advice. There is no simple solution, I don’t know what I’m going to do.

I get what you’re saying about not wanting unsolicited advice. I think people just want to help you feel better. But if all you want is to have someone listen, then platitudes and Suzie Sunshines just don’t cut it, right?

You may need to go to a different type of listener. A true mental health therapist is trained to listen and reflect, not offer advice. Now, some counselors do offer advice, depending on if they are trained in cognitive behavior management vs. more Freudian-based types of therapy, like self-object relations. Unfortunately, it takes some shopping around to find a therapist who fits your needs and who has experience in working with people with chronic illnesses. But I’ve heard glowing reports from members who have used mental health therapy as another tool to fight diabetes.

Best wishes.

i am going to be addressing the mental health counseling, but i don’t have the luxury of shopping around being on county insurance. I’ve been playing the therapy game for the last 15 years, most of it misdiagnosed as depression and general anxiety. It’s much much more serious than that. I get downright manic…horror stories abound too. Don’t care to share but i get out of control and become a danger to myself and others. Easily. Needless to say, I do need counseling on two different angles.

Unsolicited Advice Warning!!!

You don’t have to be religious to talk to a minister, priest or rabbi. They’re generally (not always) good listeners.

Terry