Am I wrong to want a new endo to back off?

My endo of over 20 years retired. We had a good relationship in that he pretty much left me alone unless I had questions, concerns, or if something showed up in my bloodwork that needed attention. I have had good, steady labs, A1c of 5.7, etc. I saw him every 6 months. It worked.

Now I’ve been assigned an NP, and I’m sensing she’s going to be helicoptering me. I’ve had these sorts before—they go over glucose/food/insulin records from weeks before my appointment and ask things like “why did you do this?” or “you shouldn’t have taken insulin here you should have…” blah blah blah.

I do not feel respected or trusted. It’s upsetting me.

Perhaps she’s just trying to get a handle on how I do day-to-day treatments, but I really, really don’t want or need a babysitter.

It’s really odd. During the appointment she kept saying my labs were great, I take good care of myself, etc. Yet she wants to see weeks of Glooko info. I think many of her patients don’t stay on top of their diabetes, and maybe she’s used to pushing them around?

Help me think this through, please. Is she overstepping? I sense she’s one of those data people who ONLY look at data and don’t listen to their patients.

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I don’t see why you couldn’t be direct. “I’ve had this disease a long time. I don’t find it useful to go over my day to day choices at this point. If that changes, I’ll let you know.” And be nice, say you respect the NP’s knowledge but just because someone asks you why you took x insulin in some situation doesn’t mean you have to answer them.

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When she asks “why did you do this?” is it a question or a rhetorical statement? If it’s a question does she listen to your answer and does your answer affect her response?

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