I am very independent maybe it’s because this disease is one where we have to figure things out for ourselves. i was wondering do any of you let others help you when you are sick or when you have a low?
Yes… just the other day I was in the middle of making a grilled cheese and felt super low. So I had to ask my mom to finish making it for me.
I have no problem asking my loved ones for help when I really need it.
my mother helped me when i first got home from the hospital when i was diagnosed.
she would just help me count out the carbs for stuff, but the rest i did.
but now i’m totally independent.
i go to the doctors by myself and everything.
i’m sure my family would help out tho if they see i couldn’t function or wasn’t able to do things on my own.
i hope i never have a low like that 
No, never. Well, I take that back – I allow others to help me when I get super-low and pass out, but if I’m even a little conscious and my sugars are, like, 15-20 and I’m capable of talking, I tell everyone I’m fine and don’t need any help. But, when I’m unconscious, then, yes, I am forced to allow people to help me. Actually, though, I’m told that, when I’m unconscious, I fight people and usually don’t let them help me. So, I guess, no, I don’t allow others to help.
yes I do, I try to do it on my own but some times I need some help or advise from my family
I prefer to look after myself but once in a blue moon I ask for help.
I take care of myself most of the time but during lows, I have learned that I need to allow my family to help me. At that time, they are thinking more clearly than I am. I am also training them how to take care of my insulin pump. If ever anything happened to me that I was unable to manage my pump I would still want to stay on it. I have taken care of patients in the hospital who are unable to manage their pumps but I convince the doctors they will do better on the pump and I manage them until they are able to do it themselves. But if it’s me, I’m the only one in the hospital that knows how. Better to be prepared.
Yes…family and friends over the years have really helped me with some severe lows and even a few bad highs so I am thankful for the support when I have needed it! It’s never a bad thing to have people to lean on when you need it!
YES if i need sugar you better empty your pockets and give me some, No joke. Sometimes i’ll ask my co workers for candy, and they say i can have some anytime i want. If i’m low while i’m sleeping and my boyfriend is up, he’ll help me right away, which is good because i’m usually groggy. Plus basic support or help is kinda nice, like when somebody tells you about a book they saw or a article they read about or heck even help figure out what’s for dinner
Melissa:
I never turn down help. When someone sees I am in any kind of distress (from lows, to my mobility problems with doors, etc.) I let them help. One thing is … I am not too proud to accept a friendly assist. The other is … who am I to refuse their help when it comes from their heart. The Jews call it a mitzva (spelling?) If people feel good by doing small things for others then I don’t feel like I want to belittle their effort. I am also not too proud to ASK for the help. Like the McDonald’s counter person who SAW me struggling to get in the double set of doors and didn’t even move to help me even though he wasn’t doing anything but washing the counter. I actually did kind of reprimanded him because it P.O.s me that businesses that want my business aren’t accessible even with doors (or bathrooms). (BTW, is am confined to a power chair when out in public.) It’s a basic human requirement … to be nice to someone less fortunate than you. I even help others myself.
Lois La Rose
Milwaukee, WI
yeah, i wasn’t sure where to put this so i stuck it in here. but you are right this goes for all those of us who deal with diabetes.
i love your way of thinking and i find that kindness is great to have in this messed up world.
for the most part i do a lot of it on my own, but that’s mostly because i am on my own a lot. lol
but if my mom is around or occasionally my bf (long story with helping and him though) i will ask them to grab me something if i am low. my co workers and managers know i am diabetic but really have no idea. i’m a waitress, very independent job. that kinda scares me… and one time a kitchen worker gave me some extra food bc he knew i was low all night and having trouble keeping my bs above 80 for 3 hours straight = we both then got yelled at by the kitchen manager, and when i tried to explain he started bitching about protocol and i had not rung the food in, financial thing, etc. (i have no prob paying for $2 worth of food, but only when i can function properly) so asking for help and getting it sometimes are two different things
i am going to reply to my own thread so that you all know where im coming from.
yes i will accept help, but if it’s someone who takes away my power to do something that i am more than capable of doing on my own then forget it get me out of there. i try to deal with my lows on my own and i feel like im taking away from everyone’s time like when i went to disneyland a few years ago i came off a ride and was super low. my cousins knew i was low and tried to fight one of the park security to go through a gated part while they were setting up for the electrical parade in california adventure. one of my cousins got me a sandwich from this restaurant they had around the corner i guess and i am so grateful to them for helping me but i felt like i was causing them to be scared more than enjoy their trip. so it’s both a yes and no.
for when i am sick yes i always ask for help, most the time i would be knocked out anyway. but i haven’t been that sick since i have been on the pump, but i am a tad bit scared for when that happens because then i will have to train my mom on how to give me my bolus’s.
Most of the time I take care of myself. I don’ t like to use D as a “crutch” so I usually am independent until it gets to a point where I can’t be anymore. If I’m low, and can’t function suddenly, I’ll ask my fiance to get me something to drink (juice or soda or something). If I’m low and he’s not around, I will force myself to take care of myself. The only reason I ask him for help is because I know it makes him worried when I start acting “weird”. So, it makes him feel good, like he’s helping, when he gets me something to treat a low.
I’ve asked my dad to drive me to the ICU before when I was in Dka. He carried me into the emergency room.
Other than that, I do my own shots, I figure out my own ratios, and I test my own blood. I don’t like to worry people.
Maybe your boss needs a manual or something. haha.
My bosses are pretty understanding- even though they don’t have any idea what it is that I have.
i do my own thing. i’m very independent. if i need help with something, i’m not ashamed to ask and those around me are always will to help. these are things like if i’m too low, i’ve asked for help getting a juice box from the kitchen or asking someone to take me to the eye doctors since i don’t trust driving even with sunglasses. other than those simple things, i try not to rely on others for physical help…having support though is another thing and all the help i can get there the better!! 