I’m sorry you had such a rough time of it. We’ve got about 8 months on you of living with a child with diabetes. It can get better - if you work at it.
We don’t use the Omnipod - never even seriously considered it because it seems to have more negative reviews than the other available pumps. Our endo’s experience was that most of their patients who tried the Omnipod ended up switching to a tubed pump sooner or later. My son has been using an Animas ping for about 9 months, and we have no complaints - he loves it.
Regarding the family relationships, having your child diagnosed with this disease is devastating. It certainly can take a toll on your marriage and your relationships with your diabetic child and your non-diabetic children. I will admit that I got pretty immersed in books, research, etc. for quite some time, and, looking back, I was probably a bit depressed, too. One day I woke up and realized that diabetes was already robbing our family of the more carefree lifestyle we had before, and it was damn sure not going to rob us of anything else. I put away all the books - I refer to them if needed, but they don’t sit on my nightstand as a constant reminder anymore. I stopped surfing the web and visiting forums full of people who were not managing well. I didn’t need horror stories - I needed to learn from people who were successfully living with this. I make a concerted effort to NOT ask my son about his blood sugars all the time. He manages very well, and he alerts me if something is out of whack. I still help when issues arise and and will check his meter when he’s not around, but I am working hard on making sure he knows that he’s competent to care for himself and make good decisions. I stopped nitpicking my husband for everything he does regarding our son. He loves our son as much as I do and is capable of caring for him, even if it’s not the way I would do it. I also started making a concerted effort to outwardly show just as much interest in my non-diabetic child as the diabetic one. I realized somewhere along the way, that I spent way too much time thinking about how my diabetic child was doing and that I was not showing my normal interest or enthusiasm for what was going on with my non-diabetic child. Basically, I just had to decide that we could manage this disease or it could manage us. I wasn’t willing to give up any more control to a malfunctioning pancreas!
Our local JDRF chapter has a mentor program. If you don’t have someone close to talk about all of this stuff with, maybe JDRF could hook you up with someone to help?
All of that to say, it all certainly gets easier with time and experience - and with effort to make sure diabetes doesn’t take any more from you than it already has.
Best wishes to you and your family.