Welcome, and sorry that you need the help that you can find in places like this. Hope you know what I mean.
I was dx’d as T2 in July. My numbers are not bad, and would not help you very much, but fwiw, I am in the 80’s in the morning, and seldom exceed 140 after I eat. Sorry we don’t speak the same language in BG numbers
I have no super powers, or great self control, but I set out immediately to prove to myself that I could get myself under control. I have enough life issues to cope with, without worrying too much about diabetes. My initial A1c was 6.8, which ain’t bad from what I read. Three months later, it was 5.5. I did the very best I could for those three months.
If it helps you, all I drank was water. No soda, no juice, just water, with an occasional bit of lemon juice when I simply could not get plain water to go down anymore I always drank about a gallon of water a day, so I just stayed with it, and ditched the small amount of soda, and all the OJ I used to drink.
You seem to have noticed what quite a few of us have found, that mornings are a bad time to take in carbs. At first, I was having cereal, but quickly found out cereal is just no good for my numbers. I tried other things until I recognized that AM and carbs don’t work for me. I have eggs, bacon, sausage, and even Bratwurst for breakfast. Tried so hard to get in a small bowl of cheerios to break the monotony, but too much sugar for me, so believe it or not, I switched to having an occasional salad for breakfast. Just the stuff in the bag, with some tomatoes and hard boiled egg tossed on top. Lite dressing has few carbs if you keep the amount low. Salad for breakfast ain’t much fun, but I was out to prove I could get my A1c number down.
Deli meat for lunch, turkey and ham would often get just rolled up on a plate with some garlic powder and pepper, and some mustard and even a bit of mayo. Not great, but it kept me from dying of starvation, barely Eventually, I found tortillas that are 8 carbs each (walmart) so I could have a kind of sandwich with the meat. Tuna or canned white chicken, mixed with some mayo goes well on them too, so I have made it this far, calling them real sandwiches. If it was a bacon and eggs breakfast, a salad for lunch is due.
Don’t forget about cheese. Mostly zero carbs, and I have been known to make a cheap quesadila (sp?) with just the tortilla and cheese in the microwave.
Dinner I hit up the frozen foods dept and keep a supply of vegetables. Personally, lima beans, cut green beans, and broccoli are all I can get down. There are other choices. These are not free of carbs, but have much more nutrition so its worth it to eat them. I don’t care for vegetables, but my days of eating just what I love are over, so I take em, cause I have to. Lite dressing makes them palatable. A small red potato cutup and boiled with the skin in the same pot as whatever veggies is okay for me by the evening time, and I eat either boneless chicken, pork chops, cube steak, other types of steaks and even a hamburger with the fixings, but no bread. I cook them all on the bbq. No fried anything That’s been dinner for for going on five months.
Roasted, unsalted nuts, walnuts, and the occasional granola bar (quaker) are what I munch on in between meals. Even tho the granola bars sometimes hit me hard, I am not perfect, and simply need to eat one… The worst was no chocolate, but I found that the instant, non-fat chocolate pudding with non-fat milk is pretty low carb, and helps with the “gotta have chocolates” Whipped topping, lite, is also okay.
There you have what I eat 95% of the time, but that is just me, and we are all different, so test and test and test to see what your choices do for you. The most important thing to do is find a few meals, and some lunches that test you out okay, and then you have something to fall back on, and can modify, add and subtract from there.
You need to establish a baseline, and not just go all willy nilly or you will never find what is spiking you, and what is good, and risk tossing a lot of good, because of your process. Simplify, would seem a good battle cry for getting a handle on what you can eat, then expand your diet once you have control.
Just remember the logical point that if your add more than one thing at a time to a meal, you won’t know which rings the bell, and which does not.
I have been to Wendy’s a few times. Small chili and 5 pc chicken nuggets are okay. Even cheeseburgers are alright, but I have to toss the buns, and just eat the rest plain. Kind of a waste of money tho, so I stay away for the most part.
Another approach is smaller meals, more often, which spreads out the intake of carbs over the course of the day. Seems that for me, and I think most, too many carbs at once is the big problem, so if you are gonna ingest 50 carbs, you may spike too high, but if you have 25, and then 25 more in an hour or so, you may be better off. Test, test, test.
What I have been taught, read, and found out is that going over 140 is not good, so if you can avoid that, you will do well. If your fasting numbers are sub 100, and you seldom ring up past 140, your A1c will drop quite a bit. Exercise matters, but some folks need to do it first, others, after they eat. Testing will answer that for you.
I am not a doctor. You asked about an acceptable spike, and I believe that number is 140. Beyond that, things start to get damaged, by what I have researched. I also simply cannot speak like an expert, because its just me and my understanding, but forget about cereal. Special K is 23 carbs, avoid milk unless its non fat and even then, not much. No bread, no pasta, nothing white and processed. Fruit is not recommended, as its mostly sugar, but some is worth it for the other nutrition.
I believe that once you get into a habit of the food that keeps your numbers tight, you can begin to experiment with other foods and see what they do, so you are not locked into the same thing every day, but being able to go the day without a 140+ goes a long way towards keeping you from having troubles down the road.
I started at 238 lbs and am down to 215, and I think that has helped a lot, so keep the exercise going, its as important as the diet, imo.
You did ask for a lot, and I did give you a lot. Probably more than you needed
Stress is bad for BG, so relax as you move along and learn what’s good and what’s bad. Keep asking questions, but remember that diabetes doesn’t seem to be just one disease, its kind of unique to all of us, and what is good for a goose, is not always best for the rest of the gander. Also, you aren’t gonna die next month from complications, so you have time to work this out and get it under control. Just remember that most of the diet books, and even the ADA and other federations, are full of baloney about what and how much you can eat. Their numbers are wrong, and the only person who can control your diabetes is you, along with your meter, so depend on it, and take everything else with a grain of salt, so to speak.
Almost forgot to mention. www.calorieking.com is one of a few sites where you can get the nutritional info on just about any food out there. You can punch it in one at a time online, or buy the software which lets you plan meals, does your exercise results for you, and a mess of other very useful tools if you find it hard to calculate carbs, or just flat don’t want to I don’t work for them, but I find it a very good tool, along with my meter. Also http://www.phlaunt.com/diabetes/A1ccalc2.php is a calculator to translate average BG into A1c, and between mg and mmol in case you haven’t found that one yet.