Do all of you know the limitations, restrictions, measures, needs of every single person that you encounter day by day? If you do, then they are fortunate. For example - Some of us have issues that folks have never even heard of! I never expect everyone to know that spinach is not something I should eat, and if it is offered I certainly don’t take offense or try to educate them on my issues with vitamin K. Yes, it’s interesting when someone suggests how healthy spinach is, I just agree and ask them to enjoy mine, too. LOL
If you can’t have some pie, then don’t eat it. A gift is a beautiful thing, unless your loved ones held you down and forced you to nosh it. Diabetics have high expectations regarding everyone else. When I have an opportunity to break bread with my own family then the last thing I want to do is whine about what they put on the table. I’m ever grateful to be in their company. I would never vent about any gift.
One thing I’ve learned in my life with diabetes (and worse stuff), is that if I carry high expectations then I am promised endless disappointment. It is not my job to educate unless asked or I am needing help. Every single day you are able to enjoy is a gift. Spread kindness first and don’t be the person who disses your loved ones.
It’s a two-way street. If good manners demand that I should not complain about a well-meant gift, they also dictate that others should not require me to defend and justify my necessary choices. THAT’s what I object to. One cannot have it both ways.
I understand where you’re coming from terry and I have felt awkward many times just saying “no, thank you.” You’re right it’s not something customarily heard in the context of food in our society… but I’m pretty sure every time I’ve had to say it, I’ve never hurt anyone’s feelings, burned any social bridges, or anything like that. I generally don’t even offer an explanation-- Just a polite no seems to work like magic…
We often entertain people here at our home with all kinds of food and drink-- sometimes a fair amount of thought has gone into both… and when someone just politely declines it’s certainly fine with us, no assumptions are made, judgments passed, or anything of the sort-- the show just goes on without them eating or drinking whatever they’ve declined
I’m heading to my in-laws tomorrow and was told the morning menu is bacon, biscuits + gravy, cinnamon rolls and then for linner it’s ham, rice, mashed potatoes+gravy, homemade rolls, stuffing, sweet iced tea, and an assortment of cookies and pies.
Carb explosion! Well, there’s the bacon and ham… I’m just gonna roll with it, but I think I’ll bring a veggie tray.
On the flip side, I found riced cauliflower at our Costco today
I take no offense when the layman says something wrong about the disease, or doesn’t understand what being a diabetic means, or how it affects what I can eat. I mean, why should I expect them to know anything about it?
What offends me is when a professional in the diabetes healthcare industry says something horribly wrong. That’s where I get ticked off.
You know, I hope, that you can make a low-carb pecan pie version…You could send that back to them and ask them to only send you that version in the future…
Other than that—I get it. But education is what is needed…Good Luck…
Oh I would so love a piece if that pie! But I can never stop with one slice - I want the whole pie! I have homemade shortbread coming to me tomorrow from my Aunt and I cannot resist it, not even one little piece. I could take insulin but I always guess wrong with this stuff. The bane of my existence lately has been Rice Krispy Treats - I am seeking them out whenever I leave the house.
That’s a tactic I hadn’t thought of. Full fat egg-nog without the booze is amazing this time of year, but kind of spikey. I might enjoy a shot of alcohol to slow that whole train down. Nice tip!
Love Pecan Pie and so would my friends and neighbors I’d have to share it with. Don’t diss your family, tell them how good it was but how much more Apidra you had to take to enjoy it.
Only insulin here so it would have been many many corrections! As it turned out, the other side of the family served (wait for it) lasagna for Xmas dinner. My nephew had a friend over who was from down south so those two young men chowed down on the pie and declared me the coolest Aunt ever. Love my family and they love me but they just don’t get it.
No veggies - chicken pie, muddy buddies, those cookies with the kisses on top…my husband and I always cook breakfast for the family so we had eggs and bacon to fortify us for the day. My sister in law was quite surprised when we declined to take the extra pan of lasagna home…not to worry tho I’m pretty sure the nephew and friend chowed thru it when they finished their newly legal after dinner smoke
