I think that it’s possible to be dismissive of the “online social networking thing” without being unkind.
The folks that design and operate these sites really go beyond what is IMHO essential. And “friending” is not essential. I think it’s true that inventing “friending” also resulted in “unfriending” (at least on facebook, if not here!). Some of us just don’t see any need to go into friending/unfriending, because tudiabetes is valuable without all that.
I also have the opinion that some people spend too much time posting things on tudiabetes :-).
HuH?? Well Terry, I must say that I am taken aback. As I recall, I sent you a Birthday Greeting. Okay granted, it wasn’t stamped. Do you realize that it costs a whole loonie to send a card to the U.S?? Highway robbery, if you ask me.
I’ll be Happy to baby-sit your Kids if you do the same for mine sometime. I made Joe the same offer. Mine are 27 and 24. How old are yours?
I will not unfriend you but please: stop asking for a loan. It just ain’t gonna happen. I do like you btw.
I lot of times people have their notificiations turned off so they don’t get emails that maybe you send them a friend request - I know I have some of those too. On here, I will add anyone because this is the sort of place where you make “friends” by posting with people - but you will probably never meet them in person. On places like Facebook, I will only add people I know in person (or from here) but I won’t add people who I have never heard of before and I think “Why is this person sending me a Friends request - I have never heard of this person before?” So I ignore them. How could they take it personally if we don’t even know each, you know? I started on FB to moslty keep in touch with old friends that I actually know IRL (In real life) - on FB there is more a security issue than on here.
On here this is a forum really - an advice and support system. You will be meeting new people you never knew before so in my opinion everyone is a friend on here. Plus we all have something in common.
But don’t take it personally if someone does respond - maybe they are just not going on the site anymore or didn’t notice they got a request. You will have plenty of other friends that will accept your request.
People, it’s not just that no one answers me with a positive comment, that isn’t my problem, my problem is I can’t add anymore friends if I wanted to, because people don’t answer at all. The “friends” issue is just have people to relate to and talk to…not to be bosom buddies forever. I belong to many other sites and you are given three weeks to accept or ignore…and then your name is dropped from the request list. Not necessarily in need of great life long friendships, but people of like mind; people to talk to about the joys and fears and angers about diabetes is concerned. People who share good information, good tips and support. Does that make things crystal clear?
I had a pending request, so I went in and rescinded it… I guess it’s time consuming to go one by one, if you’ve sent a ton out there… but at least that’s one way.
Zoe, I just came into this discussion. Wanted to say I agree with you 100% and do not think you were rude in any way. You just expressed your opinion and isn’t that what folks usually recommend? I honestly didn’t read the instructions when i joined and a few people signed up to be friends with me and as far as I know, I OK’ed them. but I don’t even know now who they were. I thought it was nice but they knew nothing about me. I just thought they were being friendly to a new person on the board.
But I guess I should read the instructions as I did not know you could not do a private message with someone without being a friend. I guess it is a good thing I haven’t needed to do that so far. I am an odd one on here and other sites as most folks don’t “warm” to me but it is OK. I still enjoy reading comments and do occasionally comment on topics of interest to me. I am retired also and don’t have the bubbly style–just the facts, man!! Be well.
Nel, let’s see older than most…I doubt that. You sound very young at heart, very intelligent in your responses, etc. So don’t worry about that, as my kids tell me, “Mom you aren’t old you are just well seasoned.”.
I really hate when people start a thread and you cant send them a message in reply, because they never get around to approving you or rejecting you… or block all messages… There are some things one may not want to put in a thread that may be of use to someone. Oftentimes i wont bother answering a question if i get a Send an invite box because they wont reply.
