David49, I think your response should be stickied and read by every diabetic starting this journey. We are blessed by a diabetic team that encourages experimentation, and finding what works for us, without encumbering us with what others are doing, unless we ask. I am also encouraged by our physicians having enough skepticism to ask questions to find out if what we are doing is within their bounds of "healthy".
While we have only been at this for a little over one year, I feel like we have been through 3 distinct stages of diabetes, and each stage has required a different approach. Sometimes this approach is limited by our knowledge and tools, but mostly it is just the variable way the body reacts. My son is looking forward to a more predictable response by his body, but whenever things get out of whack, we test and find a strategy that works the best.
As a parent, I hold myself back from the very strong urge to micro-manage, and am consistently encouraged by seeing my teen taking many parts of this on, and working out a plan that works for him. It is also unspoken, that whenever he wants help, we are there to take on whatever part of this disease he wants to give to us for as long as he wants.
Without the awesome tools of today and the ability to experiment a little, I feel like this would be more difficult to deal with.