A prejudice by any other name, would still smell as foul

You know, I’ve always been pretty open with folks about my health issues, especially after I found all the great people in the DOC. I finally learned of one of my own biases, a prejudice if you will, that I had. That was, of course, the worthless “who has it worse” T1 v T2 argument.

What little I
“knew” of T2 I had “learned” just like most people, from the media and the diabetes horror stories that everyone loves to share. Coming into the DOC allowed me to see that bias for what it truly was, just plain old ignorance. Well, I am somewhat ashamed to say that I have found another one of those.


I have been uncomfortable talking about a condition I have recently
developed and since I am usually pretty open with what is going on, I finally started to ask myself why. It is another bias, a prejudice that I had in me. I have essential tremors; my hands tend to shake when I try to do some things. It has become noticeable to others at times, but I guess it is what it is.

But, I had
yet another prejudice: that those tremors made me feel like less of a person, less of a human, broken somehow. Why did I feel that way? I don’t about my D. Was it simply because it was a “visible” condition, unlike diabetes and depression? I honestly don’t know the answer to that.

Even worse, that means I was
thinking that way about others. I really don’t like this about myself, and I hope I can keep it in mind when I hear what others are going thru. As with any prejudice, admitting that I have it is a start, but I need to ask myself “If I was going thru that, would I be open about it?” If the answer is no, then I may very well have another bias coming into play.

I think is another instance
of how media and cultural things can affect us and we don’t even know it. Hopefully, I can keep my mind open enough to realize this in the future.

Thanks to all of
you
Scott

Today’s snarky comment: What do you mean, I need to
basal test? I suppose you’re gonna tell me next that I need to change my lancet too.

wow, scott. I’m sorry! I know it’s got to frustrate the heck out of you! Is it genetic or one of those lovely autoimmune things like D?
(LOVE the snarky comment!!!)

They really don’t seem to know what causes it, it affects about 2% of the population and usually manifests when you are in your 40’s

Whenever I feel bad about myself, I go visit Josh at http://worldsstrongestlibrarian.com/. Stuff happens. Sometimes we are just unwell. But in the end, what really matters is what is inside. We can overcome an amazing amount of adversity and still find joy in life. We just have to have the right attitude. In my own little corner of the world, people like Josh are heros.

Scott,

I wish you well and that you will “enjoy better living through chemistry”.

Thx for the snarky comment!

Fair Winds,
Mike

Sorry:( Just when we get used to dealing with one set of things, life throws more at us. Whoever’s keeping score on doling crap out, isn’t doing a very good job.

I don’t know if this is the same as what you’ve got, but a friend developed tremors. She was greatly helped with accupuncture. The tremors didn’t go away completely, but they were lessened.

Scott, I am disabled due to an emotional issue, I have Borderline Personality Disorder and PTSD…those are diabilities that you can’t see. I will never work again. But because you can’t see those things, people don’t understand that I am just as disabled as the person who doesn’t have a limb; or is blind, etc. They have said very cruel and mean things that cause me great pain. Some think that diabetes is my disability and I am very quick to tell them that is not the case. Through all of this, I have come to understand that my disability is just something I get to live with, my diabetes is just another thing that causes me to work harder at being healthy.
Now I have arthritis in every joint in my body…I limp, I sometimes don’t walk as fast or as securely as others…people think that is my disability. We all have disabilities…and how we handle them or deal with them is a measure of our fortitude and strength as people. How we treat others with disabilities speaks to our integrity and soul. Sometimes it’s hard to look at ourselves in that vein, and not always a pretty picture. But one that a person of growth and insight, like yourself, does from time to time.

And yes, I’d like to know whose keeping score, I think we need to check the rules of the game out first.

Thanks Cathy, a while back a friend of mine said something to me that I really need to remember more often

Everyone in this world has their cross to bear. Some of those crosses are light, some are heavy and sometimes they just seem heavy. But there is not one damn thing that says you have to carry it by yourself

Maybe I have finally taken that to heart

Scott,

One of the advisors that I work with has essential tremors. He finds it difficult at times to hold a glass and something like soup can be very difficult to manage, his tremors mostly affect his hands and neck. A few years back the neck tremors actually made it very difficult for him to speak and that lasted for about six months before subsiding.

It doesn’t change him as a person. It won’t change you as a person. I think that you will find that people are often more curious than mean. Stress seems to affect essential tremors significantly so if you can keep your stress levels down, you may find that your tremors will under control.

Do take care of yourself.

Cheryl

I think the essential tremors just give you a little more natural rhythm. That’s hawt! Go, Scott.

Hah! High this morning, couldn’t start basal testing. Again. Oh, how I love to put it off.

LOL, MelissaBL said I was now shaken, not stirred

This is one of the reasons I have mixed feelings about being open about my diabetes. It’s so important to talk about it, but at the same time, I absolutely hate the solicited, unasked for advise from people who mean well, and those who don’t. I am really tired of people making the assumptions that I am diabetic because I couldn’t take care of myself. Sometimes I just wanna say: MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!

LOL…

heheh, yea Yogirajj, I’m the same way. Fortunately I really don’t give a damn about what most people think of me /wink

Yes… I’m starting to finally learn this… I find that most people who “say” they trying to help, really do it out of ego, rather than genuine concern.

yea, but the one’s who really are concerned will actually listen when you explain things