I think the difference is… that while most (not all, some do behave badly) progressive thinking people who eat meat, don’t feel anti-vegetarian or anti-vegan at all… (They might strongly disagree with it, but they are not constantly trying to lecture other people on how unhealthy it is… They just accept that that’s how other people eat, and leave it at that. I’m one of those people.), most people who are progressive thinking who are vegan or vegetarian feel very anti-meat eating… and can’t wait any opportunity to preach it. I have friends who I love dearly, but if they preach to me again on the dangers of eating meat, and how bad it is, I might have to kill them. As a matter of fact I don’t have any vegan or veg friends who aren’t or weren’t (some have switched to meat eating again) like this. I can only imagine that the same kind of constant hammering on how meat eating is bad goes on in a vegan household… (like a religion, or an extreme ideology)… Surely, a child wouldn’t do well either, if a household were all anti-vegan or anti-vegetarian… But in my experience, though people may say “yeah, we think it’s healthier to eat meat” around a household, they haven’t turned it into some kind of extreme observation… and most kids I know were able to go into other ways of eating, like vegan or vegetarianism, because no one was imposing mandatory rules on them. While eating meat is a norm, in most most of our society, it is hardly an imposed norm these days. Families work with what their kids like, a lot, and many of them turn veggie or vegan by virtue of being picky eaters to begin with. lol Even if just a temporary childhood thing.
I recall watching this program once… on cable… With this woman who was vegetarian, and she had a farm… and her kid wanted to switch – he wanted to eat meat… He didn’t want to live with this imposed vegetarianism anymore… And his mother gave him hell. She said “Well, if you want to eat meat, than you have to feel what the cow really feels, and you have to kill our own cow, yourself, and eat her meat…” And it just… it felt like she was trying to punish him into not eating meat… to really sort of emotionally shame or scar him for making his choice. It often feels like the highway of respect between both movements doesn’t go both ways: We must make room for allowing kids to explore being vegans or veg, in a meat eating household, but if it’s a vegan or meat eating household, we won’t respect you, and will just make it critically emotionally hard for you to to eat meat." Some even go with “our household, our rules” kind of thing…
ANY envinronment, of any kind, that is militant about a belief (whatever the belief, whether meat eating, or vegan or whatever it is) and they impose it on a child who has not yet been able to in any way make that belief personal or truly understand it to some level of maturity and comprehension, (or who does not allow for exploration of any kind outside of what they feel is okay) is NOT beneficial to a child… In the long term.