Wow… your numbers were like mine 2 years. I was misdiagnosed as T2 and it was only after DKA coma, ICU and hospital stay that they finally got around and retested and rediagnosed me as LADA.
After being hospitalized, and almost losing my kidneys, my perspective changed fast.
For my eating patterns: I’ve been assorted versions of vegetarian for decades for ethical reasons. The past decade or so, I’ve eaten fish and chicken. Cheese has always been my ethical downfall. So. Much. Yum.
With COVID, I’ve only tried eating out once a year ago with close-friends at a restaurant. I was on strict zero salt/low carb restrictions so it was a “grilled chicken Cesar salad” with no salt on the meat, no dressing, no croutons. Essentially, romaine lettuce and dry chicken. And, then eating under a mask? Ummm… was not the best of times.
Since then, my numbers are great across the board and I’m retooling my approach to food—which has always been unhealthy.
I tried the low carb approach and ate way too much meat for my personal ethics and enjoyment, but stayed in the low insulin dosage I thought I was supposed to stay in according to the instructions I received from the diabetic care team.
I was sharing with a friend about a year ago how I could only eat 72 grams of apple without going over my insulin usage I was prescribed.
I was soooo miserable.
They asked why was i doing that to myself?
There’s no one approach. And, the healthcare teams are not infallible. Often, they’re wrong as in my case twice.
I learned from people here that everyone is different. You need to learn what works for you. What foods work. What timing works. What you need to make a long-term plan.
For me, I had to learn to say that the amount they prescribed (for when I was in the hospital and couldn’t eat food) was not the correct amount for my needs.
That was my first step in taking control of my health decisions.
Went to adjusting my insulin to covering the higher carb foods I enjoy— apples, blueberries, carrots, all my delicious veggies— but kept eating high cholesterol foods like eggs instead of beans, legumes or tofu.
Now, I’m onto the next step…
My most recent testing came back saying my kidneys are once again perfect and healthy after being told I’d have to be on dialysis. One experience? Was not fun at all.
My cholesterol is the highest it’s ever been. According to my Endo, it’s a good number.
For me— I’ve got to make some more tweaks to be where I want to be as I don’t want to add another drug into my care at my age.
So…
This is a long way to say that as time progresses, you need to learn what you need to do for you and your life goals.
It’s not your partners’ life. It’s yours.
You may decide to adjust your timing and eating as I did as you gain more understanding of your food triggers. (Corn meal is worse than a bag of sugar for me. Edamame is like eating jelly beans. Coleslaw I make, tho, is an all you can eat buffet.)
You may decide that you can adjust your meds and eating during the time you see your partner and your TIR is just fine…
But, the larger question is not medical or food, rather: do you want to be with a partner who thinks only of themself and doesn’t try to accommodate your needs or at least work towards a mutual consensus.
That’s a you question…