I lost my aunty yesterday after 40 years with D

She was 83, also problems with her heart and blood glucose management, a good life, but always a struggle

She was a T2, her sugars were un-mananageable for past 6 months, alot of leg ulceration; her body just gave up the struggle yesterday

I am so sorry to hear this Michael, but I know you helped her with her fight.

to be honest, she was old school and educated us. when i was a teenager (in the late seventies and early 80s) and i used to go over, she would often get out her meds and paraphenalia for testing her blood sugars etc, and tell us how they (her saister, my other aunty also had it back then) would need to treat and approach this dreaded thing

to me, my aunties were the pioneers (as are all the people before them who had it).

I am so sorry for your loss! I know she was old and ill, but I understand that you will still be feeling raw! This feeling will go on for a long time, sometimes more than others. This is normal and remember there is no time limit. Anyone who tells you six months down the line that you should be over it by now, either has no heart or has not experienced bereavement, and should be politely ignored!

You will have good days and bad days. Be kind to yourself. Allow your self to grieve. It may not feel very comfortable, but it is healthy and necessary to be allowed to express your grief, your anger or whatever emotions you go through. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and we each grieve in our own way. For this reason you should be gentle with your father or mother, brother or sister to this aunty. They will deal with it differently to you, and of course have had a different relationship with her.

Remember to eat and sleep and play and rest during your time of mourning. It is the only way through. It will never go away, but it will get easier.

I pray for you and your family at this time.



Very sorry for your loss. Your Aunt was a special lady. She will be with you always. Sending love your way and peace. Robyn xo

Sincere condolences. It’s so very hard to lose someone you love, no matter what their age. In the Jewish tradition, we say that she will live on in your memories of her – take time to visit all those pleasant memories as often as you think of it!

My condolences, Michael. Heartbreaking.

So sorry to hear you lost your beloved aunt. Allow yourself time to grieve.

Sad indeed. But she made it through 40 years of Diabetes and lived to a ripe old age of 83.
Certainly Admirable! May she rest in Peace. My sincere sympathy to you and your Family Michael.

Still she put up a jolly good fight and went down flags flying. Chapeaux bas.

thanks all for your thoughts. you are right, we do have the memories.

funeral is on wednesday, but all i can think of are those memories, and when she braved life with D always there in the background/foreground.

my mother would always ask her for the last 30 years and more “how are your sugars”

“fine” is what she also said.

but now i know,even all those years back, she really really was scared deep down but put on a brave “fine” face for us all.

such is life, and we need to learn from those before us…

in the last 2-3 years (and last 6 months especially) she was in and out of hospital for her heart condition, usually complicated by high unmanagable blood sugars (as in uncontrollable with insulin); however, she never actually went into dka.

and in that time, it was daily nurse visits at home (sorting out her 18 or so pills

but what i remember is her ‘never complaining’ attitude

sometimes that toughness is a bad thing, as sometimes such people never seek help when they really need it

so fond memories of a brave ‘fine’ women.

rest now.

I am sorry to hear that Michael. My condolences to you and your family.

My thoughts are with you. You are right in the toughness not being good at times. Unfortunately we have to fight for what we need - and at times this can be sooo tiring and frustrating.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I’m so sorry for you loss. You have been very active here and most people probably think that you yourself have diabetes, but from everything I’ve seen from you that is not true. You are here to help the community because of how diabetes has touched those family and friends around you. In that way, your aunts passing has touched us all even if we never met her. I know that you would have wanted to help your aunt even more than you already did, but realize, you have done even more than that. You came here to this community and others have helped pass on her legacy through your web site, blogs and postings and we are all better because of that. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Im so sorry for your lost Michael… my condolences to you and your family.

My prayers to you and your family . Mike. I know it is hard right now. As Natalie, said , let your good memories of her comfort you. Know how much she loved you and was a wonderful person…

God bless,

Thankyou again all, for your kind words