I'm pregnant... on accident

I know this is extremely irresponsible, but I was in between birth control at the time. I just found out today that I am 4 weeks and I am so scared :( it's bad enough that I am just 20 but now I am probably hurting my baby because my last A1C was 11- but that was in December. I've seen my endo since then in March, but we didn't do an A1C test because I saw him to set up my insulin pump. So maybe it is better now? I can't stop crying. I know I need to see my endo, but do I see a gyno first? I went to planned parenhood for my test... and even worse is I moved 3 hours away from my endo in February and have just been driving up here for appointments, so I should just find a new one in my area right? Has anyone else made such a huge mistake like this? Are your babies okay? :(

One of my good friends had type G (which seems to have segued into type 2 for her...:-() and I sort of got the impression with that, if the numbers are off, the baby sacrifices the mom for itself? I doubt it's entirely healthy and taking any steps you can to get more normalized blood sugars will probably be good for both of you?

You may want to be careful though...in about 3 years, it will be talking back to you!

I highly recommend you join these two groups:
for insights from other women about diabetes and pregnancy.

Until you see your endo, perhaps it would be useful for you to get an A1cNow test:
You can get these at your local pharmacy.

Hope this helps... you will be OK.

First: enjoy, a baby is coming!
I know it's difficult now and you have many worries but you wrote "hurting my baby" and I read in it all the love only a mom can feel.

Yes you need a whole team for you in any order you wish: endo, gyno, nutritionist.
Find them near you, the months ahead you'll need them often and it'll be difficult for you to travel.
Go fast for the insulin pump, if you can afford go for a CGM too.
You should lower your A1c as soon and as much as you can, but mind if you have already complications, expecially your eye: control them now (to see the trend) and in few months because a fast dropping A1c can worsen some complications (if you have them already).

Work on your therapy and your diet too to lower BG spikes. Increase your BG testing.
Find the right balance, your mood now is up-down fast, don't think to the past but for the future, live day by day and do the best you can: a good mood helps to keep good BGs.

Be happy, think positive ! Cheers.

Congratulations! Seems scary now, but if you can just get through this (and it goes a lot faster than it seems) you'll be rewarded with...well, there are no words. Having a kid really is...darn. There really are no words. You won't regret it. ;)

As far as anyone else making such a huge mistake...well, I'd say everyone!

I'm not a fan of the popular modern notion that having babies is a matter of rational decision-making and is done sensibly. If that were the prime kick-in-the-butt, the human race wouldn't have gotten very far before dwindling out like a 4th of July sparkler. Kids are extraordinarily inconvenient in the short term. If we used our brain to make this decision, we'd never have 'em. Honestly, who do you know who's perfectly healthy...who can afford kids...who's in the perfect relationship...who'd make a perfect parent...who has the time to devote to properly raising them...who's at the right stage in their life...?

No, it's a darn good thing that having kids is the most natural thing in the world and an act that doesn't answer to logic, because there are ALWAYS rational reasons not to have babies...which I guess makes all of us mistakes of a sort!

P.S. I hope I haven't offended anyone with this opinion. I'm not saying having kids is the only reason to live, or making any statements about God or nature, or saying that everyone should be a parent, or that we should or shouldn't make hard decisions when it comes to whether or not to parent. I just believe that it's generally a good thing, and that when young people have kids these days many tend to frown on it. I believe society has a distorted view of childmaking - it's not, and never has been, really, a RATIONAL thing, though we like to believe all our decisions are based on reason. I also think having kids is generally unpopular these days because the economy sucks and new kids coming into the world are kinda seen as competition for the existing residents of it, But here's the thing - unless we find the key to immortality, kids are literally the wave of the future. We need 'em. Someone's gotta make 'em. And we're nowhere close to knowing enough about biology to "evolve" ourselves deliberately. So we do it like we always have - we have 'em when we have 'em.

Yikes, I didn't mean to get on my high horse...anyway, I'm so happy for you, though yes, it is terribly frightening. I'm thinking good thoughts for you. If you can, find yourself an obstetrician who's experienced with high-risk pregnancies. I had one and am very glad. I also found it odd that when I got pregnant, I seemed to enter this weird category of "the privileged sick" with the medical establishment - they really wanted to help, for once!

Hey! You are experiencing the love and care a new mommy experiences! don't beat yourself up for it! Just go to your endo and work hard on getting your diabetes on track! you should try to get an endo close to you, diabetes can be a stressful disease, don't stress too much, this all could be a blessing in disguise, maybe a new life will encourage you to do better with your diabetes ;-) don't stress just make as many appointments as you can and get/stay on track!

I agree with this post!

Yes, I did make a huge mistake like that once and I am very thankful that I had a miscarriage (I would have had an abortion otherwise, because I was simply not ready for that kind of responsibility). I had the appointment scheduled to terminate, but miscarried beforehand. I was about your age when it happened and I am so happy that things worked out the way they did. Oh, and don't think of it as a mistake - it's a little thing called life and it happens. Don't beat yourself up about it.

I have been there, and you need to make a decision as to whether you want to proceed with this pregnancy. It's something that, IMO, is a very personal choice and one that only you can make. You are the one who has to live with whatever decision you make. Getting through the pregnancy is one thing....raising a child is something entirely else. Both are rewarding, but also energy-draining and exhausting.

Regardless of whether you decide to proceed with your pregnancy, you need to get your A1c down and, yes, a pump can help with that if you use it properly. If you do proceed with the pregnancy, be aware that while there are risks, diabetics have healthy babies all the time. With the right monitoring and care, the chances are VERY GOOD TO EXCELLENT that you and your baby will be just fine.

Whatever you decide, there are lots of folks here to support you!

First, congratulations! Motherhood is completely amazing, if it is something you want. My first pregnancy was unplanned. My numbers were good, but not terrific at the time (I think my A1C was in the mid 7s then). My daughter was born 6 weeks early due to pre-eclampsia and spent 5 days in the NICU. The pregnancy was hard, but bearable. I was really sick the entire time. However, the results were awesome. My daughter is now 7. She does great in school, plays the violin, is involved in sports and is a terrific kid. She is completely healthy (at least so far!).

My husband and I decided we wanted another child a few couple of years later, and I did the prep work that time. :) It took quite awhile before I was given the ok to try, and then it took time to get pregnant. I had another daughter two years ago. Again it was a tough pregnancy, but no pre-eclampsia and I was induced at 37 weeks. My baby was healthy (and tiny!), and has turned into a wild and carefree toddler who is silly and happy most of the time. After that pregnancy I had major eye issues that I'm still dealing with, as well as some kidney problems despite really ideal numbers.

I don't know your situation, but as I'm sure you know, babies are expensive. Doctors and supplies and daycare and diapers...how is your support system? It gets hard to take care of yourself during the first weeks of madness, and your insulin needs will change greatly.

You can totally do this, if it is what you want. Find an endo you can work with, find an OB/GYN who has experience in diabetes and pregnancy. You will probably also be referred to a high risk OB. There will be lots of ultrasounds (that part is kind of fun).

I don't want to go on any longer than I already have, but if I can help in any way you can email me at erinmcmahon41 at gmail.

Good luck!

I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we have full custody of his three year old son so not ALL of the aspects of raising a child are new to me. My Mom and my whole family live 3 hours away from me :/ my boyfriend and I live really close to his whole family, and his sister is a type 1 diabetic and has 3 children but I know she's had a few miscarriages. I haven't spoken to her about this because I don't want to tell anyone until I'm further along. I don't work right now because we just moved a few months ago, and I wanted to go back to school :/ which I know is still possible, it's just going to be really hard. Financially we do okay, my boyfriend has a guaranteed job at his family's business. I'm just concerned about the health risks, and my family's judgment.

OK 1st off I got pg with both of my kids by accident. Did't mean to at all. Mine are now 22 & 23 (almost 24) I would go to the Endo 1st (that's what I done 25 years ago anyway) Then go to the gyno. My oldest daughter was born fine but with an inheatered trate . She was born missing her left hand but everything elsewas fine. Then when my 2nd daughter came she was totally fine with nothing wrong with her at all. PLEASE get ur A1C checked again and go from there (OK That's what I done anyway)

Hi, My name is Angela and I'm 21 years old. I am 12 weeks pregnant today so I know exactly what you are going through. Me and my fiance have been together for almost 3 years and have full custody of his 3 year old daughter. We talked about having a baby so we said if it happens it happens. Well it happened I didn't expect it to happen so fast so I was in shock. First I went to the Ob to confirm it then we immediately made an appointment to see the endo. My last A1C was 9.1 so I was freaking a little and I was constantly drinking water not eating big stuff and checking my sugar every half an hr which my dr. said it was a little excessive but I told her she didn't understand I am normally 400 500. So she said I was doing a good job now. The OB put me on folic acid vitamins that I take 4 times a day to protect the baby more. I feel great no morning sickness just a headache from time to time. So if I were just take a deep breath and prepare now eat healthy drink a lot of water and try to exercise a little bit. I hope everthing works out for you.

We sound so similar!

Im sure my A1C wasnt the greatest when I got pregnant, but the big and most important thing NOW is to keep your BG as in good of control as possible. Pregnancy does crazy things to your d...you may find your needs decreasing...increasing...etc. But find a really good Dr who manages high risk pregnancies, and also I'd suggest either keep in constant touch with your endo. Maybe you can fax or email your readings weekly and they can advise you on adjustments.

My pregnancy I had really low blood glucose almost up until I delivered. Of course I had my son on 70/30 which that stuff isnt easy to work with on a good duch, much less when u are pregnant. Just test really frequently, stay in close contact with your Dr's and just keep your numbers as stable as u possibly can and as near normal as you can. You are lucky to be on a pump, that will make this much easier in my opinion.

You sound like you are really mature for your age, and you have a good support system around you. Maybe go to the store and get one of those A1C Now tests to get an idea of how you are now?

true chrissy I had forgot that

I have health insurance through my Dad, thank God. I do plan on trying to get WIC and food stamps, my boyfriend has a good job doing hvac with his brother and Dad but he has no benefits and I think we can get food stamps because he is paid partially 'under the table'. I called a new endo in the area I moved to and his office told me that all he would do is refer me to a perinatologist so I called them at the hospital in the city we live and they referred me to a high-risk OBGYN. So next thursday I have an appointment with the nurse in her office to do bloodwork and fill out my medical history and I will see the actual doctor around June 21st the office said that I won't need to see an endo because they work closely with the perinatologist whose office is next door. Does that sound right?

That sounds good to me. Good Luck and CONGRADS!!!

21st june is more than a month from now, do you see your endo for the pump well before, isn't it ?
The early months are most important to control BGs, you need to learn fast your pump.

I got my pump in March :) so I am using it now. I have been checking my sugar every two hours after I eat and adjusting my insulin if it is too high. Anything higher than 120 gives me a warning on my pump.