In unison, ALL of you Just walk away and leave him at the table by
himself.</< strong>strong> The "talk to the hand" gesture in unison with heads turned, not looking at him is grand ploy.. It may cause a stir and the other kids in the cafeteria will look , maybe the teachers on duty will come around,But you and your friends will be able to tell the authority figures what this obnoxious kid in need of social skills and "home training" kid has done.The whole cafeteria will know and group shame works wonders in a high school. Even if you have to do this alone, your willingness to out him in public shows YOU to be powerful and him to be pitiful. He may not speak to you ever again, but that is HIS loss. Bless you, honey Brunetta
I agree that if you CAN talk with him one-on-one, do that. It may just be that he doesn't know how to handle you being diabetic. Ignorant people like this just need to be educated and it may make him defensive if you do it in front of everyone. But you need to stand up for yourself one way or another. If you don't think you can talk to him one-on-one, informing the counselor first may be a better idea. They can at least be a mediator when you tell him how hurtful it is that he teases you about something you can't control.
The first paragraph did not show. : I want to applaud you for speaking up You are so strong and brave girl, Anna. It is a great idea to get our friends to speak to him too. I suggest the above procedure be done after you have jointly reprimanded him, particularly he continues with his now failed comedy routine. THEN you do the "silent GROUP walk away" You will NOT get in trouble for it. There is a movement for ZERO tolerance for bullying in public schools today; GO WITH THE FLOW AND DEFEND YOURSELF.
I am inclined to disagree with the notion of talking to him one on one. I have a 13 year old and, if she were picked on by a classmate, I would want her to have 1) backup and 2) witnesses during any sort of confrontational situation. If a humiliating spectacle can be arranged, that may be ok but it may also convert a person who is just ignorant into an enemy? Edutainment is a good strategy, even with an apparent dingbat.
I know how this feels. It hurts so much to listen to people like that. There used to be this kid in my class and he would always crack hurtful jokes about me and diabetes. Once he even brought me close to tears by saying that I was just a ■■■■■ because I liked candy and couldn’t eat it. I was so horrified at how obnoxious and ignorant he was. He would make fun of me all the time and also of those who came to my defense. I hate it when people who don’t know what they’re talking about think they know everything about someones life. It sucks big time.
so i told the guy to stop today but it didnt turned out the way i planed. we were in the lunch line and and he told my friend he got silent lunch. i decided i would tell him right then so i did. he started laughing at me and i turned around nd tried not to cry. i heard him behind me saying i was trying not to laugh. by the time i got to the lunch table i couldnt hold back the tears and i started crying. i atleast cried for 30 min. i went to the counciler told her everything and she is going to talk to him
We're all very proud you. You did great. The guy, as usual, behaved extremely badly. Wonder if he grew up with bullying parents. Insignficant people with no self-worth act as he does. They have nothing to offer, nothing to say. The way they get attention to shore up their weak egos is to cut others down. He's weak. Pitiful, he's pitiful.
so sorry honey He ended up being unkind to you but you were strong to stand up to nhim. ASd Gerri said, and I also mentioned this guy has an overwhelming insistence to try to put you down in front of others; to try to upset you.. I am also releived that you went to the counselor. Hopefully this little weak ninny will listen to her. Is silent lunch when, after he gets his lunch tray, he has to sit with others in detention without talking?.Acid, this guy has no compassion and has shown himself to already be Anna's enemy. He is just trying to upset her more. She should not try to make him a "friend". Anna honey ,I worked in public schools for 32 years. I know how rough it is Remind yourelf that his words mean nothing at that you are NOT defined by them. He ha NO power over you . It does so much HURT to hear somewone laughing at you. See him in your mind as a single naked baby rat,who cannot hurt you..Let us know what happens.
The problem with these people is they feed off of you having a reaction, which is unfortunate. He wants you to tell him off, and is HAPPY to hear what he says hurts you. But then what do you do? Well it depends. It is very mature to just ignore it until he gets bored and stops but that can be hard on you and just isn't fair! I say you need to put him in his place. By that, I mean find a way to embarrass him. These jerks just need to be knocked off their high horse. With whatever you decide to do, good luck and just remember, you're ten times smarter and will amount to so much more than this idiot.
Ms. Anna..I hate bullies....I was bullied way back in the day because I had long hair..Bullies will find anything to tease. I think it is great that you have supportive friends and I would definitely let the counselor know what the person is doing. Keep standing up for yourself and you will get even more respect!!! Good luck and keep us posted!
Anna,standing up for yourself is always the right thing to do. That's not to say it's the easiest thing to do as you found out. I agree with jujube, in the end you will gain respect and selfconfidence.
I’d challenge him to go through even a third of what the average diabetic has to deal with on a day to day basis. Don’t even give him the option of the pump, just multiple daily injections. The majority of people don’t know what’s involved, or could even get over the initial thought of sticking themselves with a needle for that matter.
I applaud you for taking the initiative and saying something before it gets out of hand. It takes courage, but in the end you will be better off.
Maybe you don't feel strong or brave because you didn't get the immediate results you wanted & so deserve. You did succeed, though it may not feel like it right now. You know, all we can do is stand up for ourselves & others. That takes courage!
I guess I came to this thread a little late (just found it now) and I applaud you for sticking up for yourself. I would have made your message more self-empowering. By saying that his comments are hurtful, that shows weakness and someone like him is bound to exploit it. I also would avoid the whole teacher/faculty/parents route (unless it crosses the line to abuse), because that will make you feel weak and every time you see him, you'd get a pit in your stomach that won't go away.
The best approach, in my opinion.... and you can still use this one, is simple. Turn it around on him: "I do this because I have to. Diabetes just happened, and I need to deal with it. And, you know what? It's a good thing, too, because I'm strong enough to handle it. I can stick myself with needles and draw my own blood all the time without a second thought. If it were you, you'd be screwed. You don't have the courage to stick yourself with a needle. You probably pass out at the sight of blood. You'll be afraid of shots your whole life. You think you're so strong? Well you're not!" and walk away.
If anything, he'll come back with some lame rebuttal that would only embarrass himself. The thought of shots and needles makes even the toughest people squeamish. Find a weakness of his and harp on it. Keep going on about how you are strong and he is weak. Get the last word in, and be done with it.
Or, take Brunetta's advice and have all your friends at the table walk away. I love that one!
true leaders often feel like they aren't being particularly brave and strong when they take the action that must be taken... they just use their head, follow their heart, and do what needs to be done. This is exactly what you did. btw, others often soon begin to follow in the footsteps someone who steps out from the crowd, takes action, and shows strength, courage, and heart... Anna, I love the strength, courage and heart you have shown and I am proud of you!
And, you know what? It's okay to cry. Try not to feel embarrassed about it. Sometimes others only start to believe that something is really wrong and hurtful because we react strongly. From what you've written, I'm pretty sure that you're not the kind of person who seems to cry over nothing. And this is not "nothing" at all! Being diabetic is a big, big deal. Learning how to manage it, and how to deal with the people in our lives and their responses to it, is an enormous challenge for everyone. You're doing a great job. That's one of the big reasons that your friends stand up for you--yay!
i know this doesnt have to deal with the boy but it deals with what happend today. i always leave lunch a few minutes early so i can stop by the bathroom and the clinic and still make it to band on time. well as i was getting up to go throw my lunch away a teacher came up to me got in my face and started yelling at me. she told me that if i kept moving around i would end up leaving to go to the clinic from silenent lunch. then i told my ss teacher about it and she told me that it was because i stop and talk to people on the way out of the unch room which isnt true. people will say hi to me and i will say hi but say it while im walking. it must b a crime to be diabetic...
