I'm a new Type 2 diagnosis and feeling really alone/overwhelmed with everything. I hope I can make some connections here.
In particular I am dismayed by the fact that so many of the resources I look at seem to be pro-dieting and weightloss--counting carbs, restricting foods, cutting back etc etc. I have a history of disordered eating that I've worked really hard to overcome by being active in the fat acceptance movement and practicing Health at Every Size. I don't want to be forced into obsessing over food or counting calories because it's been so damaging to my life in the past.
I'm very weary/skeptical about doctors who just prescribe weight loss as a cure for everything that might be wrong with a fat person. I'm having a hard time believing that I will be able to find a doctor who will agree to treat me in a respectful weight-neutral way.
I actually got diagnosed by a really terrible gyno I was seeing for another issue. (I moved two years ago, and hadn't yet found a GP where I live now). He told me he "wasn't surprised" I was diabetic based on the fact that I am fat, and that he strongly recommended I lose weight to treat the illness.
I just managed to meet a GP and right away she gave me the once over and was like "I don't know if you know this, but YOU'RE FAT and need to lose weight." (I love how doctors do that as if it will be this huge revelation for me). I explained that based on my past, I was doubtful I would lose weight since I've pretty much been a larger-sized person my whole life (and the only time I was smaller, was when I was eating dangerously little), but she insisted it will "happen naturally."
I see an endo next month and I'm feeling really nervous that I will face more fat shame. I guess I'm wondering if anyone is going through the same thing or if anyone has advice for how to have productive conversations with your doctor about weight-neutral treatment and HAES.
To be clear I am not against making adjustments in what I eat and in how I exercise--I just don't believe that those things will lead to weight loss and I don't think that should be the goal of how I approach managing my diabetes. I also don't believe for a hot minute my size caused my diabetes--my mother is diabetic, as are both sets of my grandmothers.