Brittany:
I am so sorry to hear of you recent DX for RA. I often go to Terrie when I have concerns and questions and she has given you a detailed and wonderful answer to your post. I have had RA for 11 years diagnosed, likely undiagnosed for 5 more and type 1 for 39 years + a few months.
Ok so MXT is always or almost always the first line drug given to RA patients. I have taken it off and on for the last 11 years and have taken it constantly for the last 5 years. There are some alternatives but they are actually a little more harsh so while MXT is the older drug it is usually prescribed and fairly well tolerated. You will knwo if you do not tolerate it. But do give it some time. MXT is an immuno-suppressant so it may weaken your immune system a little more or less than needed until it gets dialed in.
Many doctors also prescribe Folic Acid with MXT. this blunts some of the negative side effects, but also some of the effectiveness. Yours may or may not for instance American doctors often do, European doctors almost never do. It is an individual thing. Pros and cons on both sides, I take the Folic Acid.
Now my advice, and this may run contrary to your current thinking, but it is the best advice i can possibly give. Find a Rhuematologist and do it starting Monday. It may take 3-5 months to find one and get in. But no one else in the medical profession is able to assist with the treatment plan like a Rheumatologist.
My Endo saw the indications of RA and sent me to one and I am very fortunate he did. But, while a regular doctor can prescribe MXT, it may not be in your best interest to see a doctor who does not fully understand the range of possible treatments.
Second you want to be aggressive, in your treatment. You have an option at this point you cna decide to ride it out with a PCF or get to a treatment specialist. The treatment specialist, a Rheumatologist, will know the level and type of drugs that are in the arsenal to help out. Generally despite yours and my natural reaction to trust our diabetic specialists, your health will move in large part to a Rheumatologist. Yes you will still see your endo or family doctor, but if cannot well you will not have good control over diabetes. In my experience the pecking order is Cardiac, Lung, Rheumatologist, Endo, Family doctor. Having said that your Rhuematologist will take precedence over diabetes and tha tis why in the order of things getting to one is very important. This will not be a committee decision, the Rheumatologist has access to specialized information that others do not have access too.
Finally, you can live with this. There are type 1's with RA, and we get along ok. Yes it is rough at times. Yes it does still hurt, yes it will mean more doctors, more appointments more of more. But it is doable.
Brittany, at various time i was nearly unable to walk, and each time the Rhuemy pulls me out. Terrie is a great person to cry too, I do often, and she helps me immensely. i hope sometimes i help her as well. But just like the wider diabetic community, we sort of form our own little support group so ask us anything, we dont bite. Well much.
Take care.
Rick