Today happens to be the 7th anniversary of my mother’s death. Although the whole family rotated through caring for her, I was retired and so the obvious one to move in with her for her last 3 months to provide on-site end-of-life care. That meant moving 3000 miles from home, when my husband and I had never been apart for more than 2 weeks.
I never would have made it through without the support of the TuD community. Given time zone differences, I could always count on raising someone at TuD if I was having a hard time coping after trying to get her settled in the wee hours out in Minnesota…
Back in 1975, like you I stayed with my ailing mother until she died. Being a caregiver like that is highly stressful. I used to cook for her. And I tended her when she was ill. I think I was plainly overwhelmed, looking back at it now, doing what I did to no good result. She died. I think I was originally miffed at my three siblings for their not having been there. It is funny to look back. She was very sick and I loved her greatly, but I was ultimately powerless to save her. The cancer did its job and took her life. I moved on.
I remember when you went through this. It broke my heart to see you go through this. I remember clearly the loss of my parents although it happened years before. Nothing can take away the ache in your hear that you feel, but I hope that messages from others can make you feel just a little bit less alone.
Sorry to hear of your loss…i am happy that you could find comfort in your time of grief in such an unconventional medium. Says a lot…thanks for sharing.
I remember too. This community has helped me get through the sadness of losing my parents. Remember Reed (Seagator)? He was about the same age as my dad, and he spoke with me every day here in his last months.
It’s been a bit rough here for me today, this morning we got the news that my favorite neighbor and friend has lost his battle with cancer. He always called me when a bald eagle was flying over the lake.
