I recommend that you acknowledge and accept that highly processed carbohydrate starches are nothing more than long strings of glucose molecules holding hands. They light up the same area of the brain as some highly addictive street drugs.
Processed carbohydrates can be highly addictive. For some people this addictive quality can be unusually strong. Just as alcoholics realize that partial abstinence is doomed to failure, for many, limiting their consumption of highly palatable processed carbs to less frequent “treats” does not usually end well.
For me, when I cut out all the bread, potatoes, noodles, pasta, crackers and rice, I found that their addictive power over me receded after a few weeks and I no longer had to exert considerable willpower to resist. If I lapse and allow myself even one “treat,” I will be forced to amp up my willpower to resist increasing my treat schedule. Once I discarded the whole idea of a treat meal or treat day, I was no longer forced to steel my willpower to defend my health.
There are many low carb baked recipes that use alternate flours, like almond, and artificial sweeteners, like stevia, to create “safe” keto treats. In the face of an addictive personality, these safe treats can become a problem. They certainly can be eaten in moderation with little ongoing effect but if you bake yourself a treat and then consume the whole thing in a single sitting, that will lead to increased insulin doses and inevitable weight gain.
Bottom line, I recommend going cold turkey in the transition to a low carb lifestyle. Don’t tease your body with the hope of scratching a deep, familiar itch. After a few weeks, you can concentrate on discovering all the tasty, densely nutritional, and satiating foods possible in this new way of eating.
If you’re trying to jump a chasm and land safely on the other side, the only way to successfully do that is to go all out and jump as far as you can. Taking baby steps is not going to work, will waste your time, and fail.
Good luck! This is not easy work to do and sometimes means trying and failing multiple times. As long as you get back up after each failure, dust yourself off and try again, you will succeed. Persistence will reward you in the end.