I’m thirty-something? and started to date again. But noticed when I mentioned to 2 men (In the past 5 months) I’m a diabetic they no longer communicate with me. I think me being a life long diabetic totally turned them off. But my past boyfriends never got bothered by my diabetes and continued to be with me. Now this upsets me very much. Because I don’t like men being turned off by what I have.
Any man that is “turned-off” by yor diabetes isn’t worth your time and Isn’t a MAN to begin with!!!
I agree with Robyn. Perhaps you should get to know each other before bringing up diabetes. He should get to know YOU before any of your ailments. I am amazed at how many people have the wrong impression of what diabetes is. There is alot of nice people in this world and I am sure you are one of them. You will find them.
Sid
I agree w/ you Sidney. In my last 3 relationships they did’nt know I was a Diabetic till a couple of months. That’s why those accepted it so well. I just got to go about it differently now.
Thank You Robyn. Your words are uplifting for me.
Connie: I’ve also recently started to date again (I’m 46, T1 for 27 yrs, with a pump). I was involved with 2 women for more than just a couple of dates (one for 6 months plus) and my diabetes was not an issue for either of them. I told one other person about it during our first date. Neither of us was interested in a second date, so I do not know if D had anything to do with it (probably more the total absence of chemistry had something to do with it).
I agree with Robyn – anyone turned off by D is not worth your time. Every single one of us has some problem or will have some problem in the future. It is better to know what kind of person you are getting now, rather than later on. I learned that one the hard way.
In both of my post-divorce relationships, my partner was more interested in me than the D. That’s the way it should be. But, I am not sure that I agree with Sidney – I would be pretty unhappy if I found out that someone I had been dating for a while had been keeping something significant a secret. I think it is better to bring it up early rather than wait until you and he have much more committed to the relationship.
But how can one not let the other person know, you live with diabetes ( 24/7 ) ?? Even a romantic dinner at the best restaurant or at home requires attention by finger poking and insulin delivery . No dinner or even a cappucino for several months ?? Oh no …you will find the ONE , choose him wisely !!
If a man is turned off by your diabetes he is a catch and release candidate. If it was a fish you could break it’s neck before releasing so it could not reproduce.
Love your message Anthony. Now that brought a smile to my face.
Are you sure that was the reason? I don’t think anyone I ever dated even really made it an issue. I think most people don’t consider the long term things of being with a diabetic until a lot father into the relationship.
I’ve been married for awhile now, but when I was dating, I always figured they just didn’t like me when they didn’t call me back. I wouldn’t even worry about it. They obviously aren’t what you are looking for if you have to hide things from the beginning.
I never considered hiding it from someone I’m interested in. They either like me for who I am, or they don’t, whatever the reason may be.
I agree with Jonathan, tell the person right out…you should NOT be ashamed of who you are, and D is a part of you! And hats off to you too Anthony!
Gosh, you’re truely blessed.
You know, I’ve been diabetic since I was seven and I don’t even really consider it an issue, at least for me. If it turns out they have a problem with it, I don’t want them around and would rather find out sooner than later. I usually mention it the first time we have dinner or something, most times people are just curious, it seems.
Anymore, D to me is like having brown (well, still mostly brown) hair and blue eyes.
Yes, the first time we meet and go for dinner. I test and inject in the bathroom. To begin with I won’t inject in a resturant full of people. That makes me uncomfortable. Not just for them but for me to. When I go out to eat w/ my mother and her husband she tells me go ahead and test and inject right there at the table, but out of respect for others I can’t do that.
Excellent view point.
My diabetes has never been an issue with anyone I dated. I guess I have the same attitude as Scott does 
I have always wondered what it would be like to date someone who is a diabetic like myself. Would we be grabbing for the same OJ box in the fridge when we’re having a low after a bit of a “romp” … or … arguing over the carb count of some decadent dessert that we’re about to share (well - in my case - they’d get 1/3 of it).
Connie: You might be pleasantly surprise (or shocked) when you tell the person. When I told one person, her response was “You think you have health issues? Let me tell you about mine.” Turns out, she was wondering at what point to let me know about hers. As Scott says, it is all about who we are – the whole package, not just the parts we think everyone wants to see.
and when you talk about the whole package, the big D becomes one of my selling points!
Don’t forget your tact
tact? I’d appreciate it if you’d keep such baseless accusations to yourself, thank you very much.
I’m old and cranky!