Let me be blunt (Father’s views)…like all of us know ,diabetes can kill. My son is 7 (dx since 3) and it drives me nuts knowing that every high or low affects his health for the worse.Your husband needs a smack in the head for leaving the responsibility up to you just because you are home all the time. It is not like house cleaning, doing dishes or something of the sort…it is your child’s LIFE we are talking about. He needs to get past the macho 1960’s attitude of “it’s the woman’s job” and step up to the plate! I can guarantee you that your husband or yourself for that matter would not enjoy seeing your child convulsing on the floor due to their diabetes. I would like to know what excuse he gives himself to not have to CARE about diabetes.
I am angry knowing that his child could die doesn’t affect him more than that. If he is repressing some feelings of despair or anger or frustration then he should talk about it or consult someone. It is normal to be pissed at diabetes and the world for taking away the “normal” life of your child but life goes on and he must learn to accept it because it won’t go away by ignoring it or pretending it isn’t there.
I work nights and am not around for many site changes or reprogramming of the pump but when I am around I take over in order to let my wife have a break. Yes my wife does more than me when it come to programming the basal rates etc. etc. but it is no excuse to totally leave it in her hands. He is my son as well as hers and I am responsible for his well being also.
Your husband needs a wake up call because it is a lot of work to manage Diabetes and the more brains the better. Like you said, what happens if you get injured or sick and have to go to the hospital (don’t wish it on you)…what will he do? He really has to put that in his head WHAT IF and start taking initiative to learning fast.He is really far behind on the knowledge and better move his butt if he doesn’t want to fall too far behind.
You say that he works 40-50 hrs a week…boohoo,has he ever calculated how many hours a week you do. I doubt it! Do a quick calculation. House work, schooling and diabetes(which alone is more than full time at a regular job…it’s 24/7) I think you have him beat by a mile.
I can go on all day about why he should be part of it and how right you are…there is simply no excuse. Tell him to take his head out of his a… and help keep his child alive and healthy.