I fail miserably. I have not done one thing to help myself. I went to the Diabetes Ed classes, then back for a follow-up, where the DE pulled out some insulin and made me take some, and called a new Dr. to see if she’d take me on as a patient. I go to see this new Dr. next Friday. My hubby also had a Dr.s appt last week and learned that his a1c is 8.1, which is up from 6.9 in September. He’s been on some prednisone tho, so I’m not sure how much of the higher numbers is due to that. My biggest problem is that he is wearing me out with his depression, negativity and anger. He’s got some other health issues going on too, and has a really defeatist attitude. I know I need to take care of myself before I can help him, but he is sucking the life right out of me. Blah!
Do any of you deal with a spouse or SO like this? How do you manage?
Best thing is take care of yourself for you & for your precious son. We can only change our own behavior. He’s not a diabetic, but my husband goes through periodic bouts of deep depression. Know what you mean about how it sucks the life out of you.
Your in a plane, the engines have exploded and it is falling out of the sky. The oxygen masks fall from the ceiing. You look over at your family, they make no move to take a mask. What do you do?
You take your own mask and make sure you are ok before you try to help them.
You are all right…I have to do this for myself. My co-workers were talking today about joining the Y and doing water aerobics and Zumba. When they asked if I would like to join them, I agreed. While I knew my husband would not be happy taking control of the child care for two nights a week, I decided I would tell him to just suck it up. I want to do this. I am going to do this. For me, because I am stubborn enough to want to hang around to see how my 5 year old grows up. I want to be here and be healthy enough to play with my grandbabies I may have in a couple of years (I have a 23 year old son also). Yep, that’s what I’m going to start telling him…suck it up! I’m going to do what I need to do, and not let him suck the life out of me! Thank you all for being so encouraging!
You go, girl! He can deal with child care & you’ll have fun with your co-workers. I did the best with exercise when I went to aerobics 4 days a week with two women I worked with. We took classes at lunch time. Never thought I could stand aerobics, but being with friends made it fun.
