i wasnt diagnosed with anyone special in my life.my family is all i have had and i honestly feel like they get very sick of my ■■■■■■■■!
moodswings,hypoglycemia…passing out an hour after dinner and sweating through the couch cushions,severe depression,terrible additude…i could go on and on and on…i’m a complete ■■■■■■■ wreck!
i dont think my family is actually sick of my ■■■■…i dont think they fully understand my condition and are therefore AFRAID.
afraid of me and my condition…i dont blame them,i honestly dont know how i would do if the tables were turned and i was watching a loved one struggle like this…lets be honest!!! it is a struggle!!!
i was sick for quite some time before i got my Dx…i havent dated in years:(
i am very lonely and have recently began online dating…not e-harmony or anything that elegant…just a site where u have a chance to meet members of the opposite sex that may or may not be interested in my pic and my profile…HA…
my diabetes is not mentioned AT ALL on my profile…i have been on several “dates” with various women that i havent even opened up the diabetic ice breaker…i guess i dont feel like exposing myself to criticism from a person i dont really know…
i have tried to meet women in the grocery store or home depot or wherever…NO LUCK WHATSOEVER!!!
this is why i’v turned to the inter-web and its many possibilities…what a ■■■■■■■ joke!!!
my docs say it’s good that i’m even trying…i agree but i feel like they dont understand what i put myself through every time i meet some one new!!
i’m swimming in the deep end,treading water and running out of steam…this is obvious to all people i meet…i tell them i got the Betes and they either dont understand or are turned off…
i dont know where to go from here…hang in there,sure…what else am i going to do?
Hi Tee Juan Dee. It sounds like you are having a really tough time. I hope your neuropathy is beginning to heal. I have found that it is easier to cope now that my neuropathy has healed and I hope you will experience this too.
The dating scene is difficult and it must be even harder when you have just been diagnosed with diabetes but I don’t think that insulindependent dating is an oxymoron. Hopefully there are some members on this site who can share their positive experiences.
It is great that you are doing so well getting your diabetes under control so quickly and apparently without much information. Stay strong!
Maybe you just need to approach all of this more casually. While you perhaps want to meet the woman of your dreams and fall in love as an ultimate goal, what you probably need right now is just to find some women you can have social interactions with and have fun. In general, a woman won’t reject you because of your being insulin dependent, she will reject you for not being fun or making her happy.
My suggestion on meeting women, take up an activity that interests you and that is popular with women. Take a cooking class, join a spin or yoga class, etc.
ps. I’m not really sure on the meeting women Home Depot thing. Does that work?
pps. I actually never really dated. I just sought to hang out with people I liked and some of them became more than that.
I agree with BSC, a woman isn’t going to reject you because you use insulin. If you make her happy and she enjoys spending time with you, the insulin part won’t matter. I tried the online dating stuff and it didn’t really work for me. I know it works for some people - I worked with a guy that met his wife that way. Some of my best relationships were from meeting guys thru work or other activities and we had stuff in common.
i agree with you all…the insulin isnt whats stopping me…i’m taking the wrong approach.this is true.i also feel like i’m a mess,like i cant get my head screwed on,i would be very happy to just make some friends…bsc,the idea about the yoga or cooking class is brilliant,i already enjoy cooking and it would make a good opportunity to be honest about my betes…btw…garden section in home depot…ladies seem to like a man who gardens:) i mostly was saying anywhere but a bar…peetie thanx again for the kind words…honestly all the info on betes and insulin and low carb diets in the world doesnt help much if you dont figure out what diet works for you and follow it religiously…i also exercise hard at least 3 days wk and i always go for walks or ride my balance board around the house…thanx again…i’m sure i’ll settle in and feel like myself again.
Nine years ago I was alone and really not interested in a “relationship”. I just wanted to have some casual, social friends Go to a show, dinner, what ever. Did the online thing with so, so results. That is until I met a woman who was also not looking for a relationship. We were both up front about this and honest about who we were. We finally met for a drink (iced tea and lemonade). We hit it off and after eight years of dating finally married in September 2010. Like BSC says, the casual thing worked for me. All the times I “tried” to find someone I just ended up discouraged. Finding a person to share life with is a wonderful thing. Having D is just another part of who you are…
