I really prefer my abdomen but after pumping there for 8 years and developing an “insulin belly” (if you don’t know what I’m talking about, check out Amy T’s complaints on diabetesmine) and listening to many of my friends here, I’ve been getting adventurous. I find that my 9mm straight sets do sometimes burn a little in the thighs, but I seem to have very good glucose control there, so I don’t think I’m hitting muscle too badly. I’m getting used to not yanking them out - tops or sides - when I pull my pants down. And getting used to how it feels.
The butt works well, too, but like Sarah S said, sometimes I feel like I’m a cat chasing my tail trying to disconnect it!
I don’t think sets are that visible through jeans or shirts. I can’t ever really see them through my clothes, at least, unless I’m in a skintight dress or my yoga pants or something. I am a high school teacher and I know my kids would point it out if they noticed it. Two years ago, I had two seniors stop me in the choir room to tell me my plaid print pants made my butt look huge. (I retired the pants.) Trust me, they’d point out a big button of an infusion set beneath my clothes. Ask someone whose brutal honesty won’t offend you and see if they agree.