I’d much rather have a hang in there, than crappy advice and/or comparisons to someone’s brother whose friend’s cousin who had their foot or kidney removed because they were diabetic.
How about another diabetic telling me I am doing horrible because my sugars were in the 200’s a few times and I need to be more careful (DUH). And this is the same person that eats 3 donuts for breakfast, takes extra insulin to go low so she can go eat a candy bar… Yea, I am going to take advice from a person like that.
Thanks, Natalie. That means a lot to me. People are just not getting the reality that 95% to 98% of people who go on diets gain it all back within two to five years. We don’t know why. We just know that this is true. Reality be damned, it’s soooooo tempting to blame the fat person. It’s soooooo comforting to believe the myth that if only they weren’t so lazy and greedy they could easily be normal, too.
Of course you know my solution to the fat-haters problem: I avoid strangers and mean, judgmental acquaintances like the plague, spending the vast majority of my time alone. No one can try to hit me with their car again or assault me or threaten to beat me if I’m locked in my apartment. Sad but true.
Here are my none least favorite conversations to have:
All you, As in all you need to do, meaning of course The teller is not going to help but of course what I want you to do it easy in fact so easy you do it, because, well im not oding it. Yeah well if its so darn easy you do it. LOL (this is the one I hate the most)
Yeah but, As in yes of course I agree with you but not really.
See if, As in this is so dangerous, so difficult, so whatever, that I won’t do it, but you go ahead.
You need, As in this is something I won’t do but you should get it done, because I said so.
No one, As in if you do this you are stupid, now of course if I do it I had a great reason.
Don’t you. As in I wont tell you not to do it, in case you are correct but I also do not want to be blamed in case you are incorrect.
7, If I were you, As in I am darn glad I am not.
Given half a chance, As in I will never get the chance, so here is my unsolicited free advice, usually about somehting I know nothing about.
Seriously, why do I have to respect and understand when someone is trying to Dr Phil me when I just am spouting off about a bad moment, hour, or whole day for that matter. I guess I figure if I want advice or counsel I’ll ask for it…but sometimes I just want to say ARRRRRGGGGG, and I don’t need to hear to “hang in there”. I don’t care what they meant. And I sure don’t want to hear criticism, who has it worse, how I should just buck up and deal…whatever.
I saw the original post as an invitation to share our least favorite response, not an invitation to “explain” them. LOL - I might change from “Bite me” to “Shut up”!!
Ohhhh I don’t like that one either. Although I was physically incapable of forcing myself to put a syringe anywhere near my skin for the 1st 2 months after I was dx’d and nearly died all over again.
I did, however, have a wonderful endo at the time who dx’d me with trypanophobia (fear of injections, more than a fear of needles themselves), rx’d me pens and itty bitty short little pen needles so I could aim, close my eyes, jab, and push the button, withdraw, and then open my eyes. So yeah, I was eventually able to “do all that” in order to STAY ALIVE
Just had a convo with my Dad who said his most recent fasting bg at the doc was 111 and he said basically the same thing… “I’ll probably die if it I end up needing insulin…no way I could ever stick myself with a needle…just the thought of trying to do that makes me nauseous.” And I told him the same thing I tell everyone who says that crap… “If I could do it, you can do it. Cuz otherwise, yeah, you WILL die. And usually when you have a choice, you’ll do things you thought you weren’ capable of to keep yourself out of the ground.”
When my daughter was first diagnosis, I had an acquaintance say to me, “Good Luck with all of that.” Are you kidding me?? Are you seriously wishing me Good Luck with Diabetes? I just stood there speechless. I know she isn’t familar with diabetes but still why in the world would someone say Good Luck?
Lynne if you let it be in your thoughts every minute of everyday it’s controlling YOU. YOU have to conrtol IT. I have found in my life that there are hareder things to control than diabetes. Just saying…
Hi Jan. Of course I don’t know the person who said “'Good Luck” to you. However, I find myself ending comments on this site all the time with things like good luck, or best wishes, or something like that to just try to wish someone well in dealing with some problem. It’s often hard to know exactly what to say! Even now, if someone tells me in real life that they’ve just been diagnosed with Diabetes (it happens too often), I’m not sure what to say and I’ve had D for about 18 years. For TuD, I’ve been leaning toward “Cheers” lately…
Mine is anything that starts "no offense, but . . . " You know what comes after is going to offend you but for some reason they think that magic qualifier makes it all ok.
Here is another one I forgot. Two other acquaintances of mine who are both nurses and have daughter’s of their own told me, “type 1 diabetes really isn’t that bad.” I’ll say it again…Are you kidding me!!!
I can’t stand when my mother insists on asking me questions about diabetes, I answer and then she follows it up with " I just don’t understand it" … UUUUUGGGGGHHHHH… then why am I bothering to answer you, if you aren’t listening… or she always assumes that I have done something wrong that is why I am high/low.
Now I try to avoid discussing anything with her about it.
I agree with BMD. Random people don’t usually offend me they dont know any better. But the medical community (and especially doctors) I hold to a higher standard.
I wouldn’t be sorry about anything, Peetie. There is always going to be someone who doesn’t like a particular wording, but what realy matters imho is the emotion behind it. If someone is showing sincere concern, I appreciate it, no matter what words it’s framed in.
