I've always wanted to have children one day, but now, sadly it's slipping away. My eye doctor said that it will be a huge risk if I got pregnant, as I can go completely blind. I feel so sad about this. I don't want to go blind. I have this hollow feeling inside, like everything is just being taken away from me. I have just completed my professional makeup artistry course and am qualified, but I can't see out of my left eye, which means I can't even do my own makeup! I battle when doing someone else's!
Another dream lost.
I hate type 1 diabetes!!!!!
How about all those lonely little ones across the world - who may need a home? or have you thought of IVF or there are alternatives now, cheer up.
Wow.. I'm soooo sorry! You're not alone either... We all hate it!!!
Really sorry to hear that :(
Like A&A said, you are not alone! Know that this community is here for you.
Vikki. I have two beautiful daughters and one is a Vicki to. If she had spoken your words, I would have said, darling, Don't hate the diabetes. Don't hate anything. You'll just end up hating yourself and that is just as destructive. Better to look AT all that is good that you have. Turn your anger around and us the energy. Be a cup half full and not a cup half empty person! Get a second or even third opinion. Don't be partisan or loyal to your doctor. Pursue every hope, and always have a plan B.
Be a lateral, creative thinker, Not a victim ! Do stuff that can make you smile. Don't rain on other peoples parades. They'll more readily be co operative, helpful and imaginative on your behalf, when helping you/sharing with you is a positive experience and not a downer!
There are so many children that need, want and will respond positively to your love. Don't let self pity chew up all that love your bursting to give to a child. I don't feel sorry for you. you don't need pity. You need a channel for your . Albert. Spain.love!
Hi vikki, I too hate diabetes!! I have been diBetic for 28 years. Diagnosed at age 14. t age 25 I went through first laser surgery then had to have restorative surgery on both eyes. Thankfully my retinopathy was caught in time. That was a very scary time in my life. I too had dreams of having a baby and becoming a mom. My endocrinologist always advised against it for the same reasons as your doctor. I would not listen but later found out I could not have children for non diabetes related reasons. I went through one ivf attemp that was not successful. I was preparing to give it a second when my right eye started to bleed. I said to myself either this is the start of the retinopathy again or somebody is trying to tell me something. My eye surgeon said he couldn’t see anything that would cause bleeding. I then decided that becoming pregnant was not meant to be. I went through a grieving process and finally came to terms with this fact. I now have a 13 year old adopted daughter whom I have had since she was one day old. She brings endless amounts of joy to my life. I really can’t imagine what life would be like without her. You will get through this. Be strong!! Yes, diabetes sucks and yes, things aren’t going the way you planned. Take the time you need to grieve your losses then pick yourself up and follow the path that was meant for you. We are all hear for you and u am truly sorry for your pain that you are feeling right now but you will get through it.
sorry about the typo at the end of my message. The drawback of a touch sensitive lap top. Blessings. Albert.
I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear right now Vikki, but... my daughter and 2 sons are adopted (oldest is 30!) and they couldn't be more mine than if they had grown in me. It's natural for you to grieve losing your dream, but perhaps that dream can be tweaked a bit?
Thanks for all the replies. I'm definitely not looking for pity, or playing the victim card. I just like to share my feelings here, because I know there are alot of people in the same boat as me. It just makes me feel not so alone.
I know I will have children one day, it's just the loss of not carying my own child that I need to grieve. Thank goodness for my 2 fur babies and my 3 kitty babies whom I love like children. They always put a smile on my face and they love me none the less.
God bless all of you!
Totally empathies Vikki. I hope you find this next thing I'm going to say of interest. You know, I didn't even think about it when I last wrote, but seeing jrtpup's comment triggered me to remember my 2 lovely daughters are also adopted. Two little girls preyed for a dad and got me! It has always been such a joy and privilege for me and they are my best friends. they phone us twice a day, every day! I totally forgot they were adopted when I wrote last. Animals are fine, but they are pets! It's such an amazing thing, that anyone can be the answer to a child's prayers. It's been a privilege to share your openness! Don't grieve for ever. I lost a wife, and remarried a lady who had lost her husband and we lost a child! But life is about making the most of what we have and what we can be. So what I have told you is not based on hollow opinion. I share this with you from my heart. Blessings This Christmas. Albert
VikkiToria, I don't know the details of your current vision problems, but I can tell you that I was told at age 18 that I was going to go blind from T1D, that my retinas were in horrible condition from high A1c's, poor blood sugar management, etc., etc. I had had A1c's in the 10-15% range for a decade. Over the decade that followed, I changed a lot - got a pump, changed endocrinologists, changed eye doctors, etc. At age 30, I gave birth to my daughter, and in another month, at age 32, I will give birth to my son. My eyes are clear of any signs of diabetes and have been since I was about 24 or 25. I just saw my ophthalmologist on Monday and got another "all clear."
Again, I don't want to give anyone false hope and I don't know the details or how your situation may be different than mine was, but I do want to say that you should keep your outlook positive and get a second opinion. Find out what you can possibly do to achieve the control or the vision correction you need to have to feel safe about pregnancy. Check out our group here called "Oh Baby" where women share their concerns about pregnancy. Read books and blogs about women who've struggled with retinopathy and diabetes and pregnancy.
And if pregnancy isn't the means by which you build your family in the end, consider all of the options others here have mentioned. I wish you the best.
Yaaaayayayayaya, my doctor said that if my eye stays stable, I will be able to have children, yaaaaayayayay!!!!
Thank you Jesus for blessing me, Amen!
Congratulations!!
Praise God!
Good news indeed. Congratulations.
i am so with you....hate it so much!! especially these past few months!