My hubby eats an insane amount of sugar. He has no history of DM. Snacks everywhere on counters, though I’ve asked him to hide it from me. I’m okay with it though, b/c I feel he shouldn’t have to suffer just because I’m diabetic. Thoughts?
What exactly about his habit of leaving snacks out is it that bothers you? That leaving them out makes them too tempting to you? Or something else?
I guess I’m having a hard time seeing where the problem is. Don’t you have your own snacks? My partner used to leave his fig bars out most of the time. Over the period of a couple of years, I think I helped myself to one a few times. But that was a choice I made and didn’t think much about it. He’s changed his habits to eating peanut butter on snack crackers more recently, but he always puts those away, so I don’t usually see them. But I also have a covered dish filled with nuts or peanuts out most of the time, too. He’ll help himself on rare occasions, but most of the time we just choose to eat our own snacks.
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Mainly the potato chips! Finally got my entire family to hide them and not even let me know they exist. Lol.
Hubby leaves SO many desserts out - cupcakes, muffins, sweet rolls, struesels, donuts, #'s of assorted candy, bags & bags of assorted candy bars (snack size), bags of M&M’s…list goes on and on. Every kind of ice cream/bars/popsicles imaginable. Lucky bum - he is still slimly sexy.
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@Gallen - Low carb and 2 large doses of Metamucil (helps hunger pangs). I eat from 10:00 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Twice a day. My Levimir dose of 40u/day is now 15u/day. Humalog down to appx 8-10u/day.
Of course my Doc doesn’t know - gotta stockpile because my insurance bites.
Oopsy-this posted on wrong thread. Hope Gallen sees it…
@MarieB: Belated thank you to MarieB! For great advice!
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Yes my family has tons of things I can’t eat. I do total gluten free now too so I have to keep things separate. I don’t like seeing it but what can I do? I have never eaten it. Even if I lived alone it would be hard. I feel very deprived every time I think about everything I had to eliminate. It’s a torture.
The worst was maybe when I met with a pump rep who started pigging out in front of me while I drank tea and couldn’t eat anything due to various reasons including my Bg constantly crashing at that time. I told her I felt like I was starving and had lost 20 lbs then, she started eating all this stuff etc. at that point most of our meeting was over so I left. Very insensitive.
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@meee (((mee))) I hear you! Yes it’s hard. The good thing is - everything tastes Soooo good when I DO eat!
Wow! That wasn’t very nice of her - but she probably just didn’t know/understand.
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That’s good. 
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No, it isn’t that you’ve offended me. I’m just trying to understand wherein the problem lies. Because I wouldn’t see it as a problem at all. If you don’t snack at all yourself, though, I guess it could be very annoying. I’m just so used to even low-carbers on these boards talking about their own snacks - cheese, nuts, jerky, fat bombs, etc.
My own situation is probably the extreme with snacking for a diabetic on insulin. My blood pressure drops after eating, and the longer between meals, the bigger the drop, which can lead to low BP symptoms even though I’m on three meds for high BP. So ideally, I eat 5-6 small “meals” a day to avoid the big drops. The foods I choose aren’t the same that most non-diabetics choose, but to each his own.
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I’m so sorry u have HBP! That definitely puts another kink in the diet.
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< intolerant_rant>
Everything is a matter of degree. There are degrees and degrees, and it’s inconsiderate to some degree to make someone else change the way they live just because you have a problem. But that’s abstract. The reality of an effective marriage (or any other workable relationship) is compromise, both ways. Okay, here comes the intolerant part: leaving sugary goodies everywhere in a house where someone with diabetes lives is somewhere on the same spectrum as leaving beer and wine lying around in a house containing an alcoholic.
< /intolerant_rant>
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@David_dns: I’ve never asked my husband to change his lifestyle for me. And I never will.
Please read my original post. Sorry, but you rub me the wrong way.
And for you to prosthetize on my marriage?
Sorry Buddy, but you’ve stepped way over the line.
Thanks GenieInABottleRN! I did see your post. Luv the name btw. I will give it a try. How long have you been eating low carb?
I am the only one in the family with diabetes. My daughter loves cookies, candy, chips, pasta dishes and pizza. When I make macaroni and cheese for her, I make mine using riced cauliflower. If she is having spaghetti and meatballs, I don’t eat the pasta at all. I try to substitute for myself so she has what she wants. It has been difficult for me. I realized after several attempts to just have “one” of whatever is around, that I cannot do that. I have to abstain completely. So I keep a few things that I have developed a taste for, such as 90% dark chocolate. Soon Easter candy is going to be in the house, and I really like those Cadbury eggs, but I will leave them alone (I hope).
I don’t see in any way how david stepped over the line. I agree with him entirely. My husband is kind and respectful, but that’s my marriage, not yours. You did ask him to change his lifestyle by not leaving junk food around - read your original post.
I don’t understand the point of your post unless it’s to get angry at the responses.
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I think you may be misreading the estimable David’s reply. He was talking about his marriage, just doing it in a rhetorically clever way (thus, the whole /beginrant … /endrant thing). I tend to agree with his point, as a married person: we all actually change our behavior in regards to others, although there are limits we place on ourselves or express to others about how much change is possible or desired.
Amusingly, I’m both a recovering alcoholic and a diabetic, and I’ve had to have an enormous number of conversations over the years with my family in order to get them not to change their habits around me. My issues are my issues, and I prefer others to not either patronize (in the worst case) or inconvenience themselves (in most cases) on my behalf. Just seeing a glass of wine isn’t going to trigger me to the point where I buy a bottle of gin. Seeing my wife’s doughnuts or candy lying around the house isn’t going to trigger me to the point where I buy a cake, eat it, and end up in DKA. Neither thing works that way (for me).
What does happen is that we have fat dogs. All those treats lying around (my wife is terrible about putting them away) eventually get eaten by the dogs after they consider them to be abandoned (they are really quite respectful): 24 hours in most cases. So the only thing that irritates me is when chocolate gets left out: that could hurt the dogs. And then there was the dreaded Aquaphor Incident of '17, which I’d rather not speak of (just imagine what happens if your poor dog snarfles down about half a large container of petroleum jelly).
Ultimately, I’m the one who decides what and when I eat. I’d be more concerned if my wife ate up all my mixed nuts and almonds (which are what I eat between larger meals to stay more or less level) 
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Knowing @David_dns as well as I do, I’m sure he was only trying to be helpful.
My husband and I try to help each other in little ways, whenever we see we can. He likes sweets and they do not tempt me. But DO NOT go to the grocery store and come home with a bag of Fritos!!!
oh Gosh @David49, Aquaphor!!! Our dog Archie (RIP) once licked an entire tin of Bag Balm clean, what in the world do they find attractive in these products? Thanks for the memory & the laugh 
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@MarieB - what is ‘bag balm’?
Oh, noticed your internet reference. TY!
it’s a product to soothe/heal irritated udders. Many hand quilters use it on their fingers when they get stabbed ( gosh, it’s been sooooo long since I did any hand quilting)
WOW. I can’t remember the last time I saw a disconnect this huge and gaping.
I wasn’t criticizing your marriage. I never criticize anyone’s marriage. I was just expressing a truism: relationships work best when they include reasonable compromise. It wasn’t aimed at any person, just a philosophy that has stood the test of time. If you took it as a personal commentary, I’m sorry, That was not any part of the intent.
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