Wow Mark - that sounds horrible. It seems like a good thing that you moved on. And also good for you! The pump rocks.
Hey Robyn, Iām not sure if anyone has said this already, but I think something you could maybe try is to get him involved in it all. Iāve always been the one in control of my diabetes (well apart from when I was very young and my mum did a lot for me), so when I was dating someone at the start of this year I was really surprised to find that he WANTED to be involved in the whole thing. Around this time, I started on the pump and was terrified that suddenly heād go from being fine with injections to having an issue with the pump, but he was totally fascinated by the whole thing. He wanted to help me change it, and even had this thing about wanting to āhit the buttonā to insert the infusion set. It was like dealing with a little child, but I loved that he was so comfortable with it. Iām not saying you should hand your boyfriend your pump and tell him to have a go lol, but maybe if he got a bit more involved heād realise that maybe itād help to see this as not just something you have to deal with, but something he can be a part of tooā¦
I hope things get better, and if they donāt, give him a good slap and tell him to wise up!!!
Well, most of the posters here have said that they just deal with it, but I"d like to say that I have found this VERY hard to deal with. Iāve been on the Omnipod since June and feel like a Cyborg. I thought it would get better , but it hasnt. My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me a few months ago, and one of the reasons (not the whole picture, of course) is that now that Iām on the pump he felt like I was āobsessedā with diabetes and my health. I agree, the increased testing and lows are a pain in the ā ā ā , not to mention that the pump has come off a few times during sex. And , heās creeped out by the pump.
So, now I"m single again in the big city, and I have to say , I have never felt comfortable blurting out to people Iāve just met that I have Diabetes. I dont want to hear that they have a bunion, or diahreah, or that their mom has liver disease either on the first date - -if you know what I mean. I 'm a very private person and this is something that I share on a need to know basis. I have no idea how to approach this with the next person that I date. I have joined the womenās sexuality group, and maybe that will offer some tips, but I just wanted to say you are not alone in feeling uncomfortable about this.
Just my two cents ā but i sure do miss the āfreedomā of just giving myself a shot and then going back to being a ānormal personā ā¦with the pump ā iām ALWAYS a diabetic. But yeah, my A1C s are betterā¦so there you go.
I use the OmniPod, and so far it hasnāt been a problem during intimacy. My husband and I were dating when I made the decision to go on it (being my first pump), and he was so intrigued by it that he tried the demo pod when I went on the real thing. Since thereās really nothing to get tangled with, we both tend to forget about it.
I made it very clear up front when we were just friends that I was type 1 and that diabetes was a big part of my life. Since health care was a big part of his own life (his momās a nurse, he was a bio major in college, and now heās in pharmacy school), he wasnāt fazed at all-- he actually thought it was cool. He understands how difficult it is sometimes (waking up in the middle of the night with high/low bgās, dealing with occlusions, etc), but heās never once felt it was a burden. Whenever Iām having a good bg day or have other diabetes triumphs, heās celebrating right along with me, but he also comforts me when Iām not having such a good day.
I sayā¦donāt be afraid to tell your significant other about your diabetes, and definitely do not give up a pump, especially if it gives you better control. Good luck 
Iām sorry to hear about your boyfriend- Diabetes is something that not only affects you but those close people around you- all that to say: heās gotta go through the process of āacceptingā your diabetes too. (just like youve had a hard time dealing with diabetes he prolly is tooā¦ he just shows it a different way) how long have you had your pump?
Iāve had diabetes for 18 years and until a couple months ago i avoided getting a pump. i had the cyborg complex myself but knew it would be best to get the pump. i felt like it made me wierd and weak. i didnt like to be visually reminded that iām diabetic.
i got the pump after i starting dating my boyfriend. funny thing is he was more āokā with my pump than i ever was. I am really grateful for that. the only thing that has helped me āacceptā my pump is to look at the positives in having it so instead of thinking ācyborgā i think how much i feel better, how much less stress is on my body now, and how i have better tools to take control of my bgās- i feel more like ābionic womanā than cyborg.
have you communicated to him how it makes you feel? not as a guilt trip but as motivation for him to start working through it and figuring out why it bothers him so much
My pump has actually been helpful during and after and probably during too if I really want to think about it. My husband works night shift and I work 3-11 PM. On the occassional nights he comes home for ābreakā, it is wonderful to not have to get up and eat before a quick interlude. Sometimes in the AM when he comes home, I have already been up with the kid and had breakfast before another ā¦ and I can actually snuggle right up to him and be warm and comfortable knowing I am ok with the basal taking care of things for a few hours. We actually laugh when one or the other of us gets tangled up in tubing. It is all in how both of you react to it, not just one. We have loved and hated the pump together now for 15 years of an 18 year marriage.
Catherine- i love your last sentence! āwe have loved and hated the pump togetherā¦ā!
I think when you can do life together it really helps. You take the good, bad, and the ugly togetherā¦ even diabetes.
I have a pump and as far as the āactā it selfā¦ no problems. As far as telling someoneā¦ I try to bring it up casualy when I tell them Iām a diabetic. Usually when you tell someone that your a diabetic they will have all kinds of questions so I just work that I have a pump into that conversation. Most likely they will ask to see it and want to know about it so when the time does come to be ācloseā it wont be as akward. I hope this helps =)
my pump doesnāt affect my sex life, my boyfriend has no problem with it, it has only ever been pulled out a couple of times in 3 years, i was with my boyfriend when i got my pump, so he knows all about it and has no problem with it.
Whatās that? Sā¦eā¦xā¦??? lol
Lois La Rose
Milwaukee, WI
I wasnāt dating anyone when I was diagnosed, but I found that my family and friends sometimes had a harder time dealing with my diagnosis than me. I think it would be a good idea to talk to him about how diabetes has affected him. He does live with it too (but of course, I agree, keep the pump!!)
As the years went by, everyone else seemed to adjust to my diabetes just fine. Now I am the one who has to still live with it!
I had my pump before I met my husband. He said it was never even a issue for him. He doesnāt think about the pump during intimate moments. 
I disconnect my pump and usually my husband is the one that reminds me to reconnect.
No more trying to drive around to find a shady and probably nasty looā¦ Never thought of that as a bonus to getting a pump!.. Oh i like the sound of this already
Iāve been pumping for 10 years, I just disconnect and can always bolus after I connect again. The pump has never been an issue.
In the morning I tell my wife that I put a little extra something in my omnipod and she thinks about me all day.
Mark- omg what a bunch of bitches. How can they be āturned offā when it comes to something that is āsaving your lifeā? I hope you never talked to them again. Sorry if it sounds harsh, butā¦ they were harsh with you from what you wrote.
ThunderOwl-
I always thought it was kinda of ā¦ weird, but stillā¦ cool that I had the pump. When I was on it, my boyfriend said I looked like an android and he was into robots and stuff. Soā¦
But during sex, it usually came off, or it would lie to the side and weād laugh about it when it got caught in something. Never caused an issue with us.
LOL @Marps! My husband constantly refers to me as āhis little android.ā I wear an Omnipod and a Dexcom.
Before I got my Omnipod, pumping would sometimes be a problem for me, especially when it came to spontaneity. I am a big user of the extended bolus feature, and since I never wore my tubed pump during sex, Iād sometimes have to wait until the extended bolus was finished (the same was true for showering). With the pod, itās not a problem because I never disconnect it.
Thatās too funny Danny! :0)~ For me itās finding the runaway skittle that got away in bed (when treating a low in the middle of the night)! You never know what color you may find in the morning!
Thatās hilarious because I tell my husband that I left stuff out or turned it down. He just laughs!!
LOL or fruit snacks