Mariah, first so sorry for your loss. I have not been in that situation but am starting to get myself in order for preconception and can’t imagine what you are going through. Being T1 is hard enough, doing the work to get to a healthy point for conception is one of the hardest things I think ever. You were doing everything right, and could not have done anything better. Your MIL ignorance, is well just ignorance and negativity that you don’t need. I know it is easier said than done, but try to not listen to her. Maybe your hubby can filter some of her feedback/comments? I also have a new SIL who got pregnant with no plans and wasn’t even sure if they wanted to have the baby. I was so angry and jealous at first, and it is also hard for me to be around her. She has everything I want without even trying or asking. So not fair? Then I have to take a step back and realize things will fall into place for my hubby and I when the time is right, life isn’t fair, and I can’t compare to others situations because that gets me no where. I hope the visit isn’t too rough and that you can keep your distance. Keep your head up, and I will send good thoughts & prayers your way.
xo crystal
I was at that point for a little while Marps and I was just about to blow it one night and then I was just like its either gonna work out really badly for me or will work out good, and they will start to respect me more. I still stayed quiet and then now this morning I text her after reading everyones support and just explained the way I felt and you know what she said…" I dont understand and I think youre being rude"!!! Oh my gosh! i could not believe that! I just give up, I dont know what to do, and then my sister in law text me and was like, Tina (MIL) was just hurt and just really wants to bond with you, what the heck!!! if thats bonding, I want no where near this “bonding” , I cant believe I’m having to deal with all this stress right now! I’m not staying with them, and I dont really care what they think of me at this point, I’m exhausted from this fighting! It’s not like I said I wouldnt see them at all! I’m staying Sunday night with them but then I would kindly like to stay the other only two nights I’m there with a friend, this is just absolutely ridiculous! ugh! what should I do?
Thanks Kristin,
I’m doing just that, I’m just going to take care of me and I dont care what they think. I always try and take care of everyone else first and this time I really just need me time and doing what I feel is right for my health and well being. I just have a hard time with people being mad at me and I hate confrontation 
Thanks Cara,
I dont think my husband will say anything to her which is unfortunate all their family is scared of her for some reason and her kids were never really brought up to share their feelings or anything like that, its just all business, which is definately not how I’m going to raise my kids up as! She does need some classes on empathy for sure! lol 
Crystal,
Thanks hun It was just so so hard to realize that all the many months I had worked hard and it just was so so hard to go through it Each day is getting a little better, and besides my MIL I have a really great family and a good circle of friends who are very very supportive. I am now wishing I had never agreed to go on this trip, but I wouldnt see my family either, so its kind of like a lose lose situation, but I’m just gonna try and make the best of it and just take it as a grain of sand.
Isnt that so so frustrating??? Right now in my grieving I’m kind of at the mad and angry stage, like why do babies get born to people who dont even want them and to people who dont have to do anything and poof they’re pregnant! While we as Diabetics are at such a high risk and we have to think about everything before we do it? Life really really isnt fair Congratulations though on getting yourself ready, and even though I had a sad loss, just try and get your A1C as low as you can before and just keep pushing through it I fully believe that eventually I really will be rewarded for all of this hardwork, and it comforts me when I think that the baby is now in heaven and is being well taken care of.
Thank you for your kind comment
xo Mariah
Do what you planned with where you’re going to stay. You don’t need that kind of stress right now. Soak up as much support as possible. It’s tough when you HAVE TO deal with difficult-to-love people.
Also, for such emotional thoughts and conversations, texting needs to be avoided. Texting does not convey emotions, so it’s all up to the reader’s interpretation. There could be so much miscommunication (that is tone, nonverbal cues, etc.) in texting alone, which could be elevating the situation even more. Think of how much gossip was started just by the very few texts that went back and forth! If you don’t want to have a one-on-one conversation with her, don’t. Just stop texting about such a sensitive situation. Concentrate on your own well-being to get you through this time.
You will be rewarded and your time will come!!! I like how you are looking at things positively, plus it is nice that you have a good circle of family/friends to balance the crazy MIL on your trip! : ) xo
Mariah, I am so sorry that this happened…it is not easy to handle. I had a similar situation in 2009, it was nothing related to diabetes that caused the miscarraige but I still had people ask “was it the diabetes”? uh NO, it I were that uncontrolled I wouldn’t be trying to get pregnant! Plus I had my mother-in-law tell me (the day it happened mind you) that when she had her miscarrage she wasn’t the crying type she just moved on…like WTF?!
But please, keep your head high and be strong…your time will come. My little girl is now 8 months old and doing wonderful. I know they’re just words now but be patient, it will happen :0) Good luck to you and feel free to vent anytime, thats why we’re all here.