We read differently. We infer different meanings from what we see. No two people understand a single statement in the same way. What seems like an innocent comment to you may be belittling to me. We express our thoughts differently. Some of us swear, some of us don't. Some of use different terms or tone. Some of us LOVE sarcasm. Some of us complain because we just WANT to complain. Who knows?!
What makes me sad is when I read remarks, and they seem callous or quick to me. Sometimes our first instinct is to jump in and respond. I recently read a post that had me scratching my head. Instead of responding immediately, I decided to wait and see where the thread went. To try to understand why this person said what they said. To read into what may have been going on. It's hard sometimes to understand that a person may be ranting and not really want a solution. Sometimes that person can be hurting and not KNOW how to reach out for help. Maybe that person just got in a huge fight and wrote the first thing that came to mind. Who knows, the person may be drunk blogging! The point is, we need to take the time to think about where someone is coming from, not just react. We are different which also means, different things may upset us.
I'm sad that we don't always accept that what is "Normal" for me may not be for everyone else. I think sometimes doctors give us an obtainable goal so we aren't so overwhelmed that we just do nothing. Coming from a range of 250-380- my doctor wants me to be 150 or less during the day and 180 or less at bedtime. Do I think my doctor is a quack? NO I DON'T! I think my doctor and perhaps many others, set an obtainable goal. And when I reach and maintain it, I know that goal will be lowered. It bothers me that we act like everyone should stick to the same exact guidelines. We aren't cookie cutters. We aren't all the same. Do you think non-diabetic people are exactly at 70-120 all the time? They aren't. We've seen the chart showing that non diabetics can go up to 160 or 180 after meals. So if they aren't always in range, isn't it safe to assume we may be different too? It bothers me that we think it's ok to tell someone their "normal range" isn't good enough. If they are happy about their progress, can't we just let them be happy?! What is so wrong in being supportive, if only for a moment? I'm sad that sometimes we just don't remember that what we say can really cut down a person.
I'm sad when I see a thread that I know is going to start a heated discussion. And I'm sad that I take the bait, every time. It bothers me that we still feel the need to make statements that we know will get people wound up and make them defend their opinion. When we posit questions that we know will cause angst and confrontation... why do it? While I agree that debate can be healthy, the trend lately seems to be anything but. There's enough hurt and anger in the world.
It makes me sad that when I log onto this site, I look to see if someone needs a kind word because the direction of the comments are too harsh (in my opinion).
Now, maybe I'm completely off target. Maybe I'm seeing things that aren't really there and maybe I'm reading more into things. That's entirely possible. But lately, logging in feels more like "damage control" than it does support. I'm not saying I'm perfect. But I hope that in reading this we may stop and think about what our seemingly innocent comments can do to people. It's not my place to tell you what to think or type. I just think sometimes we need a reminder that these words can do damage, real damage to someone's self esteem. And I hope it is a reminder of how different we all are, and sometimes we need to take more care in what we say to people.