For the first twelve years of my life (what I can remember of it) I was relentlessly teased for being too thin and relentlessly harassed by my family and other adults to eat more, more, more...
Then I went through puberty and put on some excess body fat in a period of just a few months. I was relentlessly teased for being too fat and relentlessly harassed by my family and others to eat less, less, less...
Then I went to high school, developed a rip-roaring eating disorder and everyone told me how pretty I was...pretty, pretty, pretty little bulimic. As long as I kept purging 90% of my food, I was "ideal". A lovely little hologram that everyone looked AT but no one actually saw.
Then I went through years of therapy and managed to stop purging, put on weight, and everyone told me how fat I was. People started relentlessly harassing me again to eat less, less, less...
I eventually managed to quit purging, but I couldn't quit binging. I eventually withdrew. I became obese -- became a social pariah -- resigned myself to never being "loved" because I couldn't provide the "lovable" body that other human beings demanded of me. (Cats love me. Dogs love me. People? Not so much.)
I live alone. No one is policing my weight or what I eat as long as I do it in private. People still relentlessly harass me about my weight, but only if I give them access to me, which I rarely do -- family on the phone, near-strangers at work pretending to be doling out "friendly advice", my pathetic, useless doctor ("you've got to lose weight...eat more carbs...but lose weight...but eat more carbs..."), the occasional vicious person on-line who thinks that my honesty about my obesity is an invitation to dump their unhealed crap on me.
I don't know what the name of this "game" is, but I look forward to the day I don't have to "play" it anymore.
I realize now, after over 50 years of being "it" in this "game", that it will only end when I'm dead. I'm certainly NOT in any hurry to get there, but God knows it will be a HUGE relief when it finally, finally, finally stops.