When I was diagnosed with Diabetes, back in November of 2009, I poured myself into learning as much as I could from all sorts of Diabetes literature, websites, and communities such as this one, to better care for and manage my disease. I knew I would have to make many dietary and fitness changes, as my father also had this disease and we had to help him regularly with meals, meal planning, insulin, etc. Of all the things I learned, there is one thing NO ONE told me, and that I had to learn on my own: How Diabetes would change my personal relationships.
- React in disgust to you, and never want to speak to you again, or want anything to do with you, or the rest of their family (this is especially true sometimes, in the dating scene). You don't need these people in your life... Forget about them;
- React with fear, at having you around, because they feel incredibly uncomfortable to be around your situation. They may not want to change the way they cook meals (or think somehow, that it is expected of them to change the way they cook meals), or think that you will be uncomfortable around those meals, and will not want to participate. You may reassure those people that you are fine, eating sensitive portions of certain foods, or bringing your own dish to share with others, and it might reassure some people... but it doesn't guarantee you will be invited to any other social event that person might be hosting;
- React with discomfort, or outrage, at the level of care you give yourself (ie, testing before meals, or post meals, or counting carbs, or using insulin in the open, or avoiding certain foods), because they deem you as obsessive, or it casts a light on their own eating habits, or their own self care (or lack thereof) if they also have Diabetes. Some of these people may take some lax care of themselves, and refuse to even shed any light of possibility that what they are doing is not enough, or that others might see that, and compare it to their own poor care.
- React as the Diabetes or Dietary police, either because they themselves have Diabetes or a relative does, and think themselves the absolute authority on how to handle the disease, and will not rest until they have thoroughly embarrassed you (because they KNOW you caused your own Diabetes) and somehow they think you need to be taught a lesson in front of everyone, at dinner time, on Thanksgiving day, so that you quit 'not taking care of yourself.'