A very frustrated girlfriend!

I love my honey with all my heart! We met online and have been together for 6 months. Since we've met, his health has gotten significantly worse! I've been willing to do everything in my power to help him. I've changed my eating habits and helped him change his. I remind him of his meds and everything, but it's just not enough. He just doesn't seem to care enough about himself and I don't know how I can make him do that! It's so frustrating it really is! I watched my grandmother die from diabetes. She didn't take care of herself and ultimately it caused her death at the very young age of 52. My love is only 35 and it seems that he's knockin on death's door. He's already lost his toes on his right foot from a freak accident and now it appears that his other toes need to be removed as well. I don't know what to do! I'm completely torn and feel so sad for him. Why wouldn't someone want to take care of themselves? I don't get it. Perhaps if someone reads this, they can give me a little insight as to what it's like to be a diabetic. I don't know nor do I pretend to, I just try to be as supportive as I can be!

Does he know much about diabetes? I think knowledge is power when it comes to something like that. Perhaps he’s only hearing about the complications, the negative stuff. Diabetes can be a good thing for those who get it under control - we can be healthier than the average person if we chose to be!

The sad part is, you can’t do it… he has to. You can guide, you can nag, you can learn stuff… but if he’s not interested it wont get you anywhere. Don’t stop trying though! Perhaps you can encourage him to do some socialising with other diabetics? Perhaps join a forum like this one and see he’s not alone, learn about methods of control, perhaps find something that works for him?

It’s easy to feel a bit ‘suicidal’ with diabetes. It often feels like a death sentence - but it doesn’t have to be. It’s not as final as he may think.

A huge amount of Diabetics go through a phase of giving in to the diabetes. Only some of us chose to take power over it. With a bit of luck he’ll be one of them - and he’s off to a good start with you being so willing to help :slight_smile:

Hi Kate
I never had a chance to say welcome to the “Spouses of…” group, but I’m now catching up with some old posts. I was wondering how things were going for you and your b/f.
Hope all’s well