well where do i start. my sister was diagnosed on the 21 of last month with t1. i got depression over that. & my Girlfriend broke up with me due to her finding out i have Diabetes. put that on top of all the fun stuff i got to put up with now due to Diabetes. & today i found out i have Celiac Disease so a another new thing to get use to. i feel like giving up & just helpless. hopeless. guess i just hate my life right now.
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Celiac is not so bad these days, there are lots of foods you can eat. However, if you are eating low carb a lot of the things celiacs can’t eat are off limits for you anyway. Your girlfriend was not a keeper, there are plenty more fish in the sea.
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eric, i can see you have a great personality. you can find a better girlfriend. or maybe the old one will wake up eventually. i wouldn’t wait, though.
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Eric, things WILL get better. I know, easy for me to say; I’m not in your shoes. That which does not kill us, makes us stronger. And if your girlfriend dumped you, she is clearly a loser! She did you a favor. You deserve someone much better! Hang in there…
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Hey Eric,
Wow, talk about getting hit from all sides! Don’t despair - you ARE a survivor!
You will find a girl who loves you for who you are because, as you know, none of us are perfect.
Supermarkets, health food stores, etc. offer a wide array of food products made w/o wheat. Gluten-free is now in pasta, oatmeal, deserts and more.
Now is the time to concentrate solely on yourself and doing whatever it takes to maintain good health.
You are a wonderful big brother and you and your sister, through trials and tribulations, can learn and practice good eating habits.
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@erice you’ve been hit with a LOT of stuff in a relatively short time. Please come here anytime you want to vent, scream, whatever helps. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other (plodding days, as @Judith_in_Portland would say)
and agree w everyone on the gf. you deserve better, and she will come into your life, believe me. Be yourself, I think you have a great personality too.
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The good thing about being diabetic is that through all the bad things it does to you, you will find out how very, very strong you are.
I’m sorry so many unfortunate things are happening to you all at once right now, but as a good friend has reminded me time and time again, life is a pendulum, when it swings the bad way, it always has to swing back the good way.
I know it hurts, but don’t fret over shallow people who leave you because they want you to be something you are not. Your girlfriend didn’t want to be there for you when times are bad which is proof she’s not good enough for you. Someone wonderful will come into your life one day. And they will love you just the way you are.
You are a strong person, a person who can take control, learn a new way of living, find good health despite new diagnosis. You and your sister can be there for each other and make this new life good with each other’s support.
And we are here for you as well! 
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I won’t repeat all the other good things people have said here, except one: a friend who dumps you when you have adversity to deal with, isn’t someone who would have been good for you in the long run. Better that you know that now, before investing a big piece of your life. The world is full of genuinely good people who won’t treat you that way. You just need the patience to deal with the immediate issues until they appear in your life. I have experience with this and know what I’m talking about.
Deal with the mess one little piece at a time. And as Marie says, come here whenever you need to. We’re all pulling for you.
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@erice, all that you are going through is tough, by any standard. Try to concentrate on a few things that will help you get better. Things like drinking enough water, getting daily exercise, getting enough sleep. These are simple things that you can control.
Be gentle with yourself. You are not the reason these things happened. Life can be cruel sometimes. Fate is not some willful source of evil. Bad luck can just happen for no reason. It’s not because you’re you!
When you make it through these dark days, all future troubles will be measured by this. You will have discovered in yourself a strength that can see you through anything life can dish out. Be strong; you will get through this!
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Hi Eric. Let me address Celiac Disease. I have CD and Lactose Intolerance (which CD sometimes causes). If you cut out bread, pastries, etc., you’ll find that you can still eat a healthy, satisfying diet, likely to contain fewer carbs. I mean such as meat, fish, vegetables, fruits, salads. If you want to add bread, there are recipes for bread made with almond flour. I actually indulge in some foods that are GF and Lactose Free, but I like, such as Udi’s breads, muffins, etc., found in the freezer section. You can make pumpkin pies–I use either Lactose Free milk or coconut milk, which I usually make crustless, although you can find rice-flour crusts. We have Pizza many Fridays; again I like Udi’s, although there are other good GF brands. I don’t eat much in the way of dessert, occassionally GF cookies, macaroons and LF vanilla ice-cream. I make a fine latte with a bit of LF milk and a scoop of vanilla GF ice cream; if you’re not lactose intolerant, you don’t need the LF dairy (of course!) Coconut desserts are good, as is dark chocolate. For snacks I like Nut-Thins (GF crackers) and Tillamook cheddar cheese. Having said all that, I stay low to moderate carbs most of the time; I’ve been listing some options so that I don’t feel deprived.
Restaurants can be a problem and can require some research ahead of time, or talk to the servers when you get there for advice. Some of the ethnic restaurants are largely GF, like Indian or Thai; again look up their menu on the internet if you can. Hey, you’ll do fine!
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PS…You might find this website useful: http://www.glutenfreeandmore.com/
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You’ll be alright buddy… About half the people in the USA who don’t even have celiac chose to act like they do because it’s trendy and hip for some reason… You’ll have all their envy.
Diabetes gets easier, what seems so insurmountable right now will be just an inconvenient routine before you know it. When you’re an old man and you look back at your life, diabetes will be a footnote, not the headline.
We can all relate to how you feel right now.
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thank you all. i have been told who know how many time that i have a great personality to many to Remember. & for the gf thing i’m better off without her. right now i just going concentrate on getting better. going back to school.
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Atta boy, Eric! We love you!!! 
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Everyone here has given such great words of wisdom, I couldn’t have said it better. Getting a new diagnosis is really hard, especially when you’re young. But you’ll get through eventually, even if you can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel at the moment.
I don’t have celiac disease, but I do have another autoimmune condition (eosinophilic esophagitis) that makes me allergic to many foods, including wheat. It’s hard at first, but eventually you will adjust and the new diet will be better for you (and you’ll feel way better!).
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Guess what, there are good days and bad days. I have found that when I’m having a bad day, I need to remember it is not forever. Next, the good thing about being told that you have Celiac disease is that there is now a reason why you have been feeling bad. And if you truly go off gluten you will find that you will be able to have some in small doses in the future. How long off completely. Well, for my brother, it runs in families, he had to remain gluten free for six months. For me, not a big bread eater to begin with, I stayed gluten free for a little over a month. I have remained symptom free for three years now. It is a lot easier to control than diabeties.
Generally, I handle bad days one of two ways. I either watch a really sad movie so I can really, I mean really, cry until I can’t cry anymore or I put on dance music and dance until I can’t dance anymore then I go to sleep. If I do the dancing, when I wake up things seem less overwhelming. If I do the cry thing, actually my favorite, I feel like I have had a catharsis which is usually followed by an epiphany. Just like the wave does not stay on the shore but must recede this too will pass.
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Do you and your brother have actual celiac disease (diagnosed by a biopsy)? While people who just have a gluten intolerance that causes digestive upset (but is not caused by the immune system) may be able to eat small amounts of gluten, that is not true for diseases like celiac disease that involve an autoimmune attack. As soon as gluten is re-introduced, the immune system will go into action and, while there may not be noticeable symptoms, there is still damage occuring. If you’ve been diagnosed with celiac disease and a doctor has told you that you only need to temporarily avoid gluten, I would seriously seek a second opinion.
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jen is right i would get a second opinion. as for me they did a biopsy & that came back saying i have it.
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Jen is absolutely correct: going gluten-free for a period of time does NOT make it possible for a person with true Celiac Disease to “tolerate” gluten at a later date! There is a huge difference between being “gluten-sensitive” and having Celiac disease!!! Please do not post “information” that could steer someone with Celiac Disease in a dangerous direction…
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rgcainmd is 100% correct. i can’t never eat gluten at a later date. & did they say you have actual celiac disease diagnosed by a biopsy ?.
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