I am a 28 year old and have been a T1 for 18 years. It has been a roller coaster ride over that period of time but have learned a lot over the years,both positive and negative. I have always been lectured, like every other diabetic, about developing complications if you do not keep your sugars under control but never thought it would harm me. In my late teens/early 20s, I neglected my diabetes or watch what I was eating. My A1C was running between 10 and 11. I buried my head in the sand since I did not know how to properly cope with having diabetes.
Over the past 2 years, I have been dealing with complications from my neglect, such as retinopathy and neuropathy. I have had 2 laser photocoagulation treatments in each eye, In the last 2-3 months, I have also had a vitrectomy surgery with retinal reattachment, which stemmed from the previous laser treatments.
I have tried to straighten up my diabetes and have brought my A1C down to an 8,0. I realize the damage that I have done cannot be reversed butI am trying to remain optimistic. I have been married for 4 years and been with my husband for the last 8 years total. He has resentment towards me for the damage that I have done to myself. He resents that I did not take better care of my diabetes and that I am now facing all these complications. He wanted to have the option to have children someday but that doesnt seem to be an option now.
I am trying to understand his viewpoints. This resentment is outting a huge strain on our relationship to the point where he is reconsidering our marriage. Any advice on how to cope with all of this?! Is this normal for him to feel distrustful? Any help would be great. I hope to gain some good friends from this site. Thanks