I feel so alone no support
No one understands what I feel everyday the battle to just get up in the morning … diabetes won I can’t fight anymore
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WE here ALL understand and help each other when things are tough and cheer each other on when life goes smoothly. 
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I’ve lived with this beast a long time. It gets tough sometimes. It’s good that you’re reaching out. We get the “D” part, at least.
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I believe we have all felt that way at some point in time. With all the challenges we face we can’t help but feel like sometimes giving up. You have come to the right place. TuDiabetes was created so that no diabetic will feel alone.
We are pretty good at the support business, please give us a chance.
Welcome to the family
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I’m beyond depressed all I do is sleep my life away
My family avoid me like I’m the plaque .
My kids father lives with me but he doesn’t try to understand anything that’s going on he just get angry and tells me to get over it. When I have low blood sugars he tells me it’s not a big deal just eat something I try to tell him that aometimes i cant get to the kitchen to eat or drink something i need some help … he just got angry and told me to take better care of myself and i wouldnt need any help. … I’m pretty sure no one cares if I live or die
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I joined recently, and this place already feels like family. Let’s try to get you sorted out. That’s why we’re here.
How long have you been diagnosed? Do you have the tools you need?
No matter what you are using - pump, syringes, Dexcom, no matter what insulin you are using - someone here is using the same and is probably an expert at it.
I’m with @Eric2, maybe you could tell us more about yourself, when you were diagnosed, and adaptations you’ve made to help with diabetes, and, of course, more about the struggles. I’d like to read more about your situation. Writing can be good therapy!
I was diagnosed when I turned 18
I’m now 24 .
I’m on a insulin pump and take novolog insulin
The first couple years I was in denial the only time I took care of my self was when I was pregnant with my first son …afther I gave birth I struggled with postpartum … Then I had my second son there what people call Irish twins back to back if u will
Then it’s been downhill from there.
Take a moment and consider that what you did today - reaching out for help here - is a wonderful first step. It shows that you want help, you are looking for help, and you are not giving up. It is a positive thing.
I understand the sleeping thing. There were times in my life where I slept as much as I could because it was an escape. The only time when I did not feel the pain was when I was sleeping. That is a common response to a struggle.
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How good is your control, if it is off the chart it can make a big difference in the way you feel. It is possible to have good control even when you get no support from those around you. Most diabetics find that managing their D is something they must do alone, this is true even when family support is good.
An often heard phrase here is that those around me just don’t get it. This is very true, I personally don’t believe that they can, its not their fault, they have no way of knowing what its like, they cannot relate to the constant pressure of managing a disease that requires 24/7 attention. They do not relate to a disease that can quickly have serious consequences if not kept in check.
Luckily you have found a place where people do get it. We recognize the difficulties diabetes brings and we relate to the mental issues that can come with it. We get it because we live it.
Please tell us how we can help.
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Well, my dear…We very much want you to live. …When I was first diagnosed and was told to follow first the DASH diet and then ADA diet guidelines, I researched all kinds of ways of killing myself…I was devastated. My family didn’t get why I was obsessing on trying to find some process of control.
I did have two people in my corner from the beginning, though, and that made a huge difference. My husband decided to go lower carb with me and we learned new ways to cook and eat. And my beloved sister (who recently died) jumped right in to support my efforts.
What if you joined a Diabetes support group? It could make a big difference. Check community center listings and your local clinics. Many of these are free. You need to find some folks who get what you are going through…
But rest assured that we all here at TuD understand perfectly. So please, please, please keep talking to us. How about checking in daily? Tell us how your numbers were for the day. Tell us if you had that nasty low and let us help you. TuD members have a vast reservoir of experience to draw on and it is yours for the asking. If one of us can’t answer a question, we will be able to guide you to someone who can…
We are here for you. We want to help. There is no such thing as a dumb question here. There is no such thing as an uncaring person at TuD…Love…Judith in Portland…
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Well said, @Judith_in_Portland. I’ve been participating here for many years, @Yorkergirl143, and the depth and breadth of knowledge and emotional intelligence at TuD continues to amaze me. Consider us your comrades-in-arms. We’re all fighting diabetes, all day every day. While we are not the same people fighting the exact same battle, you will be surprised at the amount of overlap in our experiences.
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I’m trying my best to change but it’s so difficult I’m tired of having to deal with this alone.
Now I just called my docs office to let them know my insulin pump reads motor error every time I try to put in my numbers and the on call Doctor said she doesn’t knw about insulin pumps there’s nothing she can do … I’m lost
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Is it a Medtronic pump? That is a common problem with those pumps. I would call Medtronic right away. If your pump is under warranty they will FedEx you a new one.
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Sweetheart, listen carefully: I guarantee you there are people who care if you live or die. The people in your life aren’t making you feel that way, but that doesn’t mean they don’t care.
Even more, I care, and I don’t even know you. I promise you there are a bunch of other folk here that are your instant compatriots, as we DO understand… we live it too.
Diabetes can be very hard on a person. Right now, you need comfort and emotional support, and the Diabetes Online Community is a very good place to find some. We’re a caring bunch, and make friends easily with other members of the tribe. Please hang around, get to know us, add to our community.
We need you too, just like you need us. We all have had bad times, and many of us have found refuge here at TuD.
It will get better. As your mood improves, the next thing is to take positive ownership of your condition and learn how to be completely independent. We can help with that too, so when a low happens you can deal with it without having to also be punched in the gut with a non-supportive person when you’re somewhat desperate for help.
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Okay, that was half an hour ago, so this is really fresh. While you should call medtronic as Jim advised, is there an immediate need to administer insulin (you just ate or have high BG or something), and you are stuck on what to do?
Please let us know ASAP, and maybe we can all get on the chat and see what we can do real-time to help you address the immediate need.
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yes, what’s your blood sugar doing? [quote=“Yorkergirl143, post:13, topic:57903”]
my insulin pump reads motor error every time I try to put in my numbers
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are you getting any insulin delivery right now?
((hugs))
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I get the feeling alone part and even family not understanding. Even my daughter’s father, who, thank G_d, no longer lives with us, doesn’t get it. He has refused to learn anything about D or help out at all. I should correct that: since her diagnosis nearly 3 years ago, he has done exactly one fingerstick and one injection. Whenever I would beg him for help and try to explain to him how serious D is, he’d say, “If this was such a big deal, she’d still be in the hospital.” Until my 27-year-old non-D daughter took my 14-year-old, who has Type 1, on a week-long road trip during which she was responsible for 100% of management (minus all the stuff my fairly responsible 14-year-old does for herself), she used to ask me, “Why do you make such a big deal out of her D?” (My older daughter no longer says this, and neither does my son-in-law!) A difficult thing to accept is that most “normals” will never truly get it.
Depression often goes hand-in-hand with D. D is relentless and exhausting. Based on the fact that you mentioned that you experienced postpartum depression after the birth of your children, I suspect you may be suffering from Major Depressive Disorder in addition to the depression that tends to be par for the course with D. I think it’s very important that you see a doctor about this depression. Just like diet and exercise alone doesn’t manage most people’s D, all the support and counseling in the world (while extremely helpful) may very likely not be enough for your depression. There’s no shame in seeking professional help.
Remember that we are here in cyberspace for you.
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I get the feeling alone part and even family not understanding. Even my daughter’s father, who, thank G_d, no longer lives with us, doesn’t get it. He has refused to learn anything about D or help out at all. I should correct that: since her diagnosis nearly 3 years ago, he has done exactly one fingerstick and one injection. Whenever I would beg him for help and try to explain to him how serious D is, he’d say, “If this was such a big deal, she’d still be in the hospital.”
[/quote]WOW.
I’m speechless.
I have two, 18 and 20, and as a father simply can’t conceive of such a psychology.
That is not a man.
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[quote=“rgcainmd, post:18, topic:57903, full:true”]
Depression often goes hand-in-hand with D. D is relentless and exhausting. Based on the fact that you mentioned that you experienced postpartum depression after the birth of your children, I suspect you may be suffering from Major Depressive Disorder in addition to the depression that tends to be par for the course with D. I think it’s very important that you see a doctor about this depression. Just like diet and exercise alone doesn’t manage most people’s D, all the support and counseling in the world (while extremely helpful) may very likely not be enough for your depression. There’s no shame in seeking professional help.
[/quote]What Rose says above is very important! One often neglected aspect of D is the impact it has on mood, attitude, and overall sense of peace and happiness. Poor BG control can cause depressive symptoms, and literally get better right away with good control for a few days, or in acute cases hours.
So, if your BG control could be improved, perhaps a lot, then this will help your mood as well.
How can we help? We want to get you to the point you’re a regular here, and the one helping the next person in need 
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